HOW TO KNOW LADIES THAT ARE NOT YET READY FOR MARRIAGE

Maturity is the quality of thinking right and behaving in a sensible, adult manner. Maturity sometimes has nothing to do with age because age is just a number. It is possible to see a 40years old person behaving like a 12years old kid and vice versa. Finding a lady suitable for marriage always takes time and sometimes looks like a Herculean task.

No wonder the Bible says "whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the Lord. So how can a man know if the lady that makes his heart leap for joy is ready or matured enough for marriage? Read carefully to find out.

1. When she is very proud.

Pride has always been a major reason why many ladies are still single till date. Of what good is marriage when the wife cannot be submissive to the husband?

Such a marriage will be full of chaos and with no time end up crashing. Whenever this trait is found in a lady, it is better for a man to excuse himself from her as this is a sign of immaturity and unsuitable for marriage. Such ladies are known for use and dump but not as house wives as men are scared of them.

2. When she is a make up freak .

We now live in a world of cosmetic and make-ups. Sometimes it is hard to recognize a lady after wearing makeup. A make up freak girl is full of surprises, you may end up being disappointed by the time you see the real face behind the make up.

This set of girls wouldn't step out without a make up kit in their bags because her life depends on it. The greatest mistake a man will make is to go into relationship with this mask wearing girls except you want to go bankrupt.

3. When she has no discretion.

"As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion".(proverbs 11:22). This kind of ladies do not have the power to take decision on their own, they often depend on friends, relatives etc all the time. This is a sign of immaturity and marrying this kind of ladies means all your family matters that are supposed to be handled within the family circle will be conveyed to outsiders for deliberation and scrutiny.

4. When she exhibit laziness.

Show me a lazy girl and I will show you a girl who does not love house chores. This kind of ladies often leave their houses dirty and the kitchen littered with unwashed plates as they will always complain of tiredness.

Any lady with this laziness syndrome may also deny her husband his marital right when they are in the other room trying to do mummy and daddy stuff. She will just slump on the bed like a log of wood. They are nothing but liabilities.

5. When she cannot cook and always prefer to eat out.

This kind of ladies do not know how to cook delicious meal and always prefer to eat out, as in going to eatery and she never make any attempt to improve. Such a lady should not think about marriage at all because you cannot expect your husband to cook when he returns from work, except when necessary like during pregnancy period and health issues. Just as no woman will like to settle down with a jobless and lazy man, so likewise no man will like to marry a lady who does not know how to prepare meals that will arouse his appetite. The way to a man's heart is his stomach.

If a man agrees to marry a lady who does not know how to cook out of love, it will eventually come to a point when love will not be able to satisfy the stomach and things will start to fall apart. Love can only be felt but cannot be eaten.

6. When she is always dirty and unkept.

This type of ladies are not bothered about looking good and smelling nice. They just live life like "if he loves me he will take me as I am". Hell No! Men are moved by what they see. If you cannot take proper care of your body in terms of personal hygiene then you are very far from marriage. You need to grow up.

7. When she gets angry easily and also disrespectful.

This set of ladies are ever ready to fight at any slightest disagreement. Marrying a lady with these two traits will be a total disaster because your home will frequently and automatically be tagged as a house of fury and a battle Creek.

Such ladies are not suitable for house wives as they lack the ability to handle family matters with maturity.

8. When she is a talkative.

Talkativeness breeds gossiping and talebearing. This kind of ladies will always creat avenues for quarrelling and fighting in the neighborhood. It will be very risky for a man to go ahead to make marital vows with these set of ladies except if the man is ready to handle the situation when it escalates.

9. When she has a very high taste.

This kind of ladies when asked to describe their dream man to marry, you will hear them say things like, I love men who are tall and handsome with six packs, rich and fair in complexion, bla bla bla!

They never focus on character but all they want is money and outward features. This is a sign of immaturity. Ladies like these often end up being single mothers or may be unmarried for life.

10. When she is always demanding.

It is a bad idea to marry this kind of ladies because they will always be liabilities instead of helpers. They don't have anything to offer apart from sex. The moment the man is broke, you'll see them disappear like vapour in the wind.

This type of ladies should not be taken seriously because they are mere golddiggers.

11. When she lives an extravagant lifestyle and also love partying.

This kind of ladies will never be satisfied with what is available due to the larvish lifestyle they are used to. They are so expensive that any man who wants to marry them may eventually go broke. Such ladies should be left alone to waste their lives with married men than to be taken to the altar.

12. When she does not love kids.

This kind of ladies prefer to play with Teddy beers to playing with kids. Such ladies should be left alone and avoided because they might end up being barren for life.

A would be wife should have love for kids because that's the primary purpose of marriage. This is also a sign of immaturity for marriage.

13. When she has no fear of God and does not like going to church.

This kind of ladies should be avoided at all cost because they can be diabolical. Marrying them would mean marrying madam Jezebel.

14. When she is stingy and does not know how to pray.

This kind of ladies can also be diabolical because a good wife always care about her husband by backing him up with prayers which in turn will make his way prosperous. A home without prayer is a home without power. If she is stingy, it may affect the progress of the husband and also breed misunderstanding among other family members that may come on visit. This is also a sign of immaturity for marriage.

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WIFE SHOULD STOO DOING THIS DANGEROUS THINGS BECAUSE THEY DESTROY THE FAMILY

Does a family break without cause? Many homes break as a result of the accumulation of little bad habits. Every wife should know that although some behaviors may not lead to marriage breakup instantly, the accumulation of such can however lead to it. In this article, we shall highlight some dangerous things whose continual happening in the family can result to an unwanted thing.

It's important that every wife should take note of them and avoid doing them as much as posssible.

1) Avoid speaking in a congregation where your husband is also present without his permission.

I happened to witness a scenario where the wife spoke in a congregation - exposing the secrets of the family. No husband will like this. Wives, be under your husbands and give them all the respect due for them. God bless you as you do so!

2) Never teach your children what your husband doesn't approve.

The responsibility of raising children is not for wives alone. It should be a concerted effort between husbands and wives. When you teach your children what your husband doesn't approve, you are causing a division in your family. This may result to what you doesn't like. Avoid doing this.

3) Do you bargain for sex with your husband? Stop it!

Many wives fail to understand the importance of marriage covenant. Once you take an oath to receive him as your husband, you've become his. Not only what you have is his but your body is also. Avoid bargaining for sex less you initiate infidelity in your marriage.

4) Never curse or fight your husband.

Some wives go beyond the normal quarrels that result from misunderstandings to cursing and fighting against their husbands. How bad this is? Know that when you curse your husband you are equally cursing yourself because you are one. Whatever will happen to your husband is like it happening to you. Avoid laying curse on your husband whatever he did to you.

5) Never be rude or arrogant to your husband.

Being rude or arrogant can never solve any problem. Instead, calming down and addressing matters amicably can. Avoid being rude to save your family from troubles.

6) Never Complain about him.

Everyone may have his weaknesses. As a wife, you must pay less attention to his weaknesses and appreciate his effort.

Encaurage him and pray for him. This can bring many changes into the life of your husband. Instead of complaining, pray for him.

7) Stop taking his position.

Some wives behave as though they are the heads of their families. They demand that all their suggestions be followed. If you fail to recognize the place of your husband in your family, you will cause trouble in your house.

I advised that every wife should please stop doing this things. If you were doing such before, it's time to stop and take up good habits.

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10 Ways To Approach Girls on The Road without Getting Rejection

Many guys are still disappointed and discarded if they get a dismissal on the lane from the ladies. The reality is that most women are very conscious that foreign men are challenged, because many are not physically powerful, unlike men. When she comes to a girl, first comes to mind the safety of her ... He did not fight against a man's power and understood. You have certain skills to persuade a girl to see you as a potential danger and to deactivate your persuade. So you are incredibly cautious so that she knows everyone can take advantage of her at any moment.

With that said, I'm going to list ten skills on the road to approach a girl so she can feel confident and speak to you without being rejected.

Below Are Ten Ways To Achieve That.

1] Smiles.

When you smile at a girl she will look at you as someone nice, she will feel relaxed. A smile stands for love and conviviality. Only make sure you smile when approaching a mysterious girl on the road so you don't pose and get rejected as a possible threat to her.

2] Please.

Use the word "PLEASE" always when you meet a strange girl on the lane. See the word "PLEASE.". It can break the bones of any stubborn woman. It shows you have respect for women. If you please tell a lady she can excuse you It shows that you do admire her. If you meet a lady on the way, use the word "PLEASE.". She's going to get up and hear what you're going to do, I bet you.

3] Don't Whisper Her.

Most girls dislike murmuring. You 're referring to all creatures ...... Girls are human beings. All the girls you see on the lane you don't have to answer. If a girl is far from you, just let her go rather than shouting at her and disturbing the school. When she is close enough, it demonstrates you 're well-read and well-read. When you say "Hello girl"

4] Dress Code.

In one of my previous posts, I discussed that before. When it comes to the first encounter with a strange person, the dress code matters a lot. You can't get dressed like a tout and expect an Adam girl who doesn't know how to react. You 're just another life threat to her. As I said earlier, girls are sensitive and very well know their climate ...... Dress smart and gentle if you want her to hear from you.

5] Don't Hold Her Hands.

This is well done by most guys. You think everyone's going to be at your bottom and call because you're a man? You just don't walk to a girl you don't know and just take her hands if you want to talk to her. That's incredibly arrogant. She would, of course, remove herself from you and go away, because you have shown that you can be a threat. Why are you holding her hands ...... You 're a kidnapper??

6] Don't Call Her Sexy.

Calling a lady you have never met beautiful is incredibly incorrect. It asks you to 'find someone to sleep with and dump with ...... This also means that just before you approach her you have visualized her body. Every lady is going to be sad ...... The care you want, she won't give you. There are a need and care for prostitutes too.

7] Don't Look At Her Breast.

So many guys had fun doing this ...... Why will you be talking to a girl and be looking at her body for the very first time? Were you a rapist? You? There was a mistake. This behavior doesn't place you in her view. I think she would be irritated because not all girls will be in the place to remain next to her while holding a smiley face. As soon as you subdue her, she is short and you can take care of the debate and win her heart ...... Do not let her subdue you, or you are going to give a message you 're helpless and you will never see her anymore.

8] Maintain Some Distance.

What we call personal space. is there. Each human being needs to have a room. You have to give them personal space even though the individual is your best friend because it makes them feel relaxed. If approaching a person first, always make sure that you have a room of around 3 ft or more, if you can. You convince her that you haven't come to hurt her by doing so. She's going to feel comfortable and listen to what you have to say.

9] Compliment What She's wearing.

If the girl you are about to meet is BEAUTIFUL, instead of calling her Pretty, compliment what she's wearing before you say something. You see the word "BEAUTIFUL," it's heard about a million times a day, and it's even getting furious. Compliment her earrings, bracelet, or even hair, or clothes. Some pretty ladies like guys looking beyond the fact they are pretty. This will place you in a good spot in her heart when you do so and she will listen to what you have to say.

10] Questions.

Too many first approach questions aren't too interesting, because you don't know what's going on through her mind at that particular moment. Too many questions could be a turn-off for her ..... Besides that, the first approach is named, and not the date. Everything you need to do is try to get to know her by introducing yourself ...... And know exactly what her name and contacts are going to do for a start. If you end up having a date with guys, then ask her heaven and Earth. 

Hope you find this helpful?

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ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS BEFORE YOU EMBARK ON MARRIAGE.

Before you walk down the aisle with your partner, here are 7 sincere questions you must resolve..

7) Are we raising kids? If so, how many?

It is important that you both discuss and come to an agreement on the number of kids you plan to have. It is also important that you agree on the spacing you'll give to the children. Do you plan to have 3 kids and have a spacing of 2 years between each? 

6) Are there changes we are to make to our lives?

Do not get married without properly discussing changes you both plan to make. Is any supposed to change jobs, are you planning on changing apartments? It is important that whatever changes you believe should happen during marriage should be openly discussed.

5) Is there any major secret i should know about?

Secrets in mariages are like little foxes that destroy the vineyard. Be as open as possible about your previous relationship, mistakes and matters you have kept hidden. If the partner loves you, they'll forgive you and help you move on. Remember, people might not be able to handle the truth, but they deserve to know the truth. 

4) What is your love language? 

Knowing your partner's love language will help you understand how best to deal with matters that concerns them. It is important that you know what love language best suits your partner. It will help you enjoy your home

3) What are the homes rules?

Are guests allowed? How long are guests allowed? Are family members allowed to come live with us? It is advised that home rules are set to ensure there is no misunderstanding when you eventually get married. 

2) What religion are we adopting and what religious centre are we agreeing on?

Decide if you both will manage your homes the Christian or Muslim way. If you worship in different religious centres, agree on which the family would be attending. This should be discussed before marriage.

1) How do we handle our finances?

Money can be a major issue in a marriage if not properly handled. It is important that you both discuss how the running of the home would be. Who pays the bills? Who buys foodstuffs? Who pays for repairs? It is also important that you agree on if you'll maintain a joint or single account. 

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TRUE LOVE AND FAKE LOVE: 29 DIFFERENCES YOU MUST KNOW

To find a true lover who can give you real love, you have to know what true love is. To attract and keep him/her, you have to give a genuine love in return. Knowing how to distinguish pure love from false love will give you wisdom on how to build a long-lasting relationship and avoid the toxic ones . Such insight will also keep you away from futile suffering due to loving the wrong person. Moreover, it will prevent you from hurting people and being guilty for not giving the right love.

So without further ado, here are 20 differences between true love and fake love that you must know.

1. True love makes sacrifices; fake love is only concern of itself.

True love is selfless. Though it doesn’t neglect itself, it is ready to make big sacrifices just to make someone truly happy. On the other hand, fake love is selfish, as it only cares for itself.

2. True love rejoices in the truth; fake love hides in the darkness of lies.

True love enjoys living an honest life. It cannot be comfortable with lies. It takes away your doubts and insecurities, as it always shows honesty and transparency. On the other hand, fake love takes pleasure in making lies. It is afraid to get near the light. It lives in the darkness and offers no enlightenment.

3. True love is kind; fake love is cruel.

True love has a big heart. It’s generous and compassionate. It will give you the love and care more than what you deserve. On the other hand, fake love is heartless. It will give you pain and bad treatment you don’t even deserve.

4. True love is patient; fake love is short-tempered.

True love can endure and forgive your faults and shortcomings. It will reasonably give you many chances and wait until you change for the better. On the other hand, fake love is easily angered when you make mistakes. It will quickly judge and punish you without even hearing your explanations.

5. True love is humble; fake love is proud.

True love acts with humility. It’s not interested in taking credits for itself. It admits its own mistakes and even takes responsibility for the faults of others. It can let itself down just to lift people up. On the other hand, fake love is boastful. It’s a credit grabber and excessively proud of itself. It doesn’t admit its own mistakes but rather blame them to others.

6. True love feels fulfilled; fake love feels empty.

True love feels complete. It feels like it has already nothing to wish for. It always enjoys every moment with you as it considers its dreams as now realities. On the other hand, fake love is not happy with you. It’s greedy and unsatisfied. It always wants to have something more, something different.

7. True love is grateful; fake love is envious.

True love values its current possessions. It feels thankful and blessed to have you. It treasures what it receives from you, whether they are big or small. On the other hand, fake love is filled with envy. It belittles your presence. It doesn’t treasure your gifts. It always feels unlucky with you, and it is always jealous of people whom it thinks have more possessions than it has.

8. True love is joyful; fake love is bitter.

True love has a cheerful heart. Its mind is filled with positivity. It feels happy to see others happy. On the other hand, fake love has a heart filled with bitterness. Its mind is filled with negativity. It always thinks that the world is unfair. It usually holds a grudge on you and the people around you.

9. True love is respectful; fake love is rude.

True love will respect your opinions, decisions, and even your ambitions. It will also honor you as a person. On the other hand, fake love is arrogant. It doesn’t care about what you think and what you feel. It considers you as an inferior person who’s not worthy of any consideration.

10. True love protects; fake love hurts.

True love may give you pain, but it always protects you from anything that will make you suffer in the long run. It will defend you from things that will corrupt you. It will shield your relationship against things that will hinder its growth. On the other hand, fake love will give you false satisfaction, which only lasts for a short time. Eventually, it will give you a toxic relationship and destroy you as a person.

11. True love is righteous; fake love is foolish.

True love is wise and mature. It is discreet in making decisions and actions. On the other hand, fake love is a fool. It is childish and narrow-minded. Its actions are reckless, inconsiderate, and only based on its self-righteousness.

12. True love knows and understands you; fake love just doesn’t get it.

True love knows you as a person. It makes efforts to know everything about you so it can love you even better. It understands you even before you say any word, as it can read your mind and feel your emotions. On the other hand, fake love doesn’t care about your thoughts and feelings, thus, it doesn’t have any idea what’s going on with you.

13. True love trusts; fake love doubts too much.

True love has confidence in you. It trusts your decisions and actions. It is positive towards you. On the other hand, fake love doesn’t trust you. Its heart and mind are exceedingly filled with negativities about you.

14. True love is loyal; fake love is a cheater.

True love has a strong commitment to you. It will avoid temptations and will never try to cheat on you. On the other hand, fake love is always and will always be a cheater.

15. True love is faithful; fake love is unbelieving.

True love depends and believes in you despite of your weaknesses and shortcomings. On the other hand, fake love needs to have 100% assurance that you are dependable before it relies or believes in you.

16. True love is hopeful; fake love easily gives up.

True love includes you in its future and sees you as a person it wants to be with for the rest of its life. That is why it never gives up fighting for you and for your relationship. On the other hand, fake love has no permanent plans for you. Thus, it doesn’t treat you as important, and it easily gives up on you.

17. True love acts with trembling; fake love just doesn’t care.

True love is not just all talk and promises. It’s not even all about mere actions. True love acts with passion, excitement, and energy. It always wants the best for you. It is afraid to let you down. On the other hand, fake love is nonchalant towards you. It always leaves you with excuses instead of fulfilling its obligations to you.

18. True love loves itself; fake love hates itself.

True love loves you, but it never forgets to love itself. It always wants to be healthy in mind, body and soul so that it can give you a healthier and stronger relationship. On the other hand, fake love doesn’t care about its own welfare. It selfishly hurts itself to the point of self-destruction, giving you more pain and problems your relationship doesn’t deserve.

19. True love grows a relationship; fake love makes it sick and toxic.

True love always seeks personal development and growth for your relationship. It serves as a role model. It always inspires and motivates you to be a better person. On the other hand, fake love loves fighting and heated arguments. It doesn’t know how to settle things in a calmly manner. It toxifies your relationship and destroys your good life.

20. True love lasts forever; fake love dies.

True love stays forever . It’s more than physical and material. It lives on even lovers are already apart or even after they die. The great story of true love and the big sacrifices made by the true lovers continue to inspire people, generation by generation. On the other hand, fake love is only after the flesh. It lives shortly, and its story is easily forgotten.

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5 WAYS TO WINS MAN'S HEART WITHOUT HAVING SEX WITH HIM

These are major ways to win a man's heart....

•COOK FOR HIM : An adage about winning a man over is through his stomach is true and real. Cooking for someone is to cater basic human needs. Food is parts of the basic needs of life. So cooking for your man everyday most especially when the meal is dealious will make a lady win a man.

•ACCEPT HIM FOR WHO HE IS: This point is very important because a lady can't change a man completely but can help him to change his ways little by little. Accepting a man for who he is means a lady needs to understand her man so that both of them will be able to live comfortable.

•MAKE HIM LAUGH: Making a man laugh is very essential in a relationship

•TELL HIM A SECRET:Telling a man your deepest secret has a vital role to play in a relationship. Telling him a secret will actually make a man to see his lady as more than a friend and wanting himself to trust her.

•ACCEPTING HIS FAMILY: If a lady wants to win her man's heart, she needs to see his family as her family inorder for their love to grow stronger.

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3 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT STAY SINGLE FOR TOO LONG

Sometimes being single is fun and I feel it is it is the sweetest feeling because you have nothing or no one to bother you. But from my deep thinking, being single for too long isn't a good idea as one is bound to miss a lot when the time actually waits for nobody. Here are 3 reasons why saying single for too long is wasting you;

1. You will miss on the experiences you need from being in relationships

There are crucial experiences everybody needs to acquire from relationships in preparation for marriage if one is hoping to. Being in a relationship equips you with the experiences and helps you know what a relationship needs and what it doesn't need. 

If you have been single for quite some time now (maybe years) I urge to find a heart that matches you and be in love. It helps. 

2. You will start feeling desperate

There come times when I feel so desperate and worn out just because I got no one to give me company, I'm ever alone and start drowning in solitude. I start feeling like you really need someone to behave so silly. Being single for too long will surely make you fel desperate and the worst part of it is when people around you come to realize that you are actually desperate. 

3. You won't know what you need out of a relationship 

Out of every relationship I've been in, I found characters that I like and those that I hate. This explains why you need not be single for too long as time will pass when you haven't decided what you want out of a partner and you will rush into marriage not knowing whether the characters your partner portrays best fit you or not. I urge you to dump the single life and embrace a relationship, that is, if you have been single for too long and time is passing you.

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WAYS TO AVOID ADULTERY IN MARRIAGE

1: Never make anybody of the opposite s** your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions.

2: Never be with anybody of opposite s** at the time your spouse must never know you are there.

3: Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody, they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

4: Be proud to use your wedding ring outside, let them know you are married and proud to be.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIR thrive in secrecy.

7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite s**, there should be somebody of your s** you can talk to, don't dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite s**. They will ask for s** in return they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don't know what their spouses are enduring at home,what you are seeing outside is just a show biz don't be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your s**ual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other, it is only faces that are different it is the same package.

12: deal with any s**ual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse, kill it before it kills you. S**ual error do not begin in the bedroom,it begins in the heart.

13: if you are finding it difficult to deal with it, find a mature christian you can confide in and let the person pray with you, counsel you. Don't die in silence.

14: before traveling have s** with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have s** until you come back, that decision may safe your life and destiny.

15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there, it is stupid, childish and dirty to do that, that is what is called lust, what is there is not different from what your spouse has, please don't be stupid sir.

16: Walk in company with good and Godly men/women if you keep company with adulterer you will become adulterous.

17: Discuss your s**ual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home, don't hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow, your wife/ husband has the best, get it at home.

18: fill your heart with the word of God always, this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

19: Memorise and Always remember Proverbs 6:32-33. "But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away".

20: Always count the cost of adultery, don't just look at the pleasure, look at the pain, loss of integrity, you will hurt your wife/husband, children, friends and above all GOD the almighty.

21: Always remember that the enjoyment, pleasure and the thrills that is in s** is just 8 seconds or less, it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trading eternity for 8 seconds, is there wisdom in that?

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HAVING SEX IN THE BRAIN, LUST OR LOVE?

Passion, Infatuation, Romance, "the hots," obsessive love, beer goggles...... these are the words we use to describe those feelings of ecstasy, elation, bliss, and rapture that almost all people will experience in some way at some time in their lives. With them come the feelings of anguish, distress, pain, agony, torment and grief. For thousands of years, experts have tried, with little success, to define romantic love, usually concluding that it must be controlled somehow by forces outside ourselves, such as the Mystical, Supernatural or Spiritual. Yet we have no difficulty in Pigeonholing other human emotions, like depression, anxiety, obsession and fear. 

Since the 1970s, Humans have experienced a deep spiritual yearning for love. This yearning is caused by the breakdown of the social structures that gave us intimate connections with friends, family and lovers and was the norm for thousands of years. We evolved as a Species that cared for our young; protected, loved, and depended on each other; and stuck together as social and family units. The older generations cared for the children, while the middle generation worked or collected food. In the evenings, the older generations told children stories and taught them about their heritage and about life. This kind of family structure now exists only in primitive cultures, parts of the Middle East, Asia, the Mediterranean, and Third World cultures. And as more and more people are staying single or living alone, this cultural chasm continues to widen. For a million years or more, societies have been structured to bring men and women together; today's societies, however, are driving them apart. The erosion of the basic family structure has led to the loss of values, kids growing up without fathers, and emotional chaos.

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7 THINGS THAT MAKES YOUR GIRLFRIEND DROP YOU FOR ANOTHER MAN.

​​​​​​Women as we all know are very precious, they should be give the care they deserve.

​​​​​​A woman loves a man who is caring, loving, handsome,rich,sexy, and awesomely perfect.

Nowadays most girls are not satisfied with the man they have, they want to try other men. But this will eventually happen if the man doesn't do these 7 things for them:

1. IF YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM: Girls love men who care about them, they get excited when a man cares so much about them, they will begin to fall more in love. They will leave you if u do otherwise.

2 IF YOU DON'T LOVE THEM: Some girls are very sensitive they know whether a man loves them or not and they may leave you when they realise this.

3 IF YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE WELL WITH THEM: This is one main thing to do with your girl daily because it enhances strong relationships. You will both be thinking and remembering each other.

4 IF YOU IGNORE THEIR TEXT OR calls: Ignoring your girls call or text make them fell sad and uncomfortable, a good man who loves his girl must never ignore her messages. Even though u are busy, try to let her know that you are busy instead of ignoring or snubbing.

5 If IF YOU NEVER WANT TO HE Many girls want their man to help them, but they might not actually show it. But u must try to help her even though she refuses, just offer your help with a smile and she won't hesitate allowing you to help her.

6 WHEN SHE FINDS OUT YOU ARE CHEATING On her: This is one major reasons why relationship fails. Most girls doesn't like it when they are sharing their man with another girl. This is natural it is jealousy which is needed to be present in a relationship. she may not even think twice before breaking up or leaving the guy.

7 LACK OF THRUST IN THE RELATIONSHIP: this is very common nowadays. Most men and women don't thrust their partners. Which may result to break up. I thrust you is a better compliment than I love u. So therefore a thrust worthy relationship is prone to last long. 

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IF YOUR GIRLFRIEND DOES THIS 12 THINGS, SHE'S SIMPLY THE BEST FOR YOU.

In the 21st Century, It is believed that men and women are constantly trying to find their right match, or more like “perfect partner”. While all we are trying to look for is someone who only compliments about our personality Not who we can share our good or bad news with. Should that be the case? Absolutely not.

Being in the shoes of someone is yet different as love can never be defined easily it takes so many challenges that are being faced by both the mates. These points can make you find your girl easily and if you find the one with all these qualities then it’s congratulations, you’ve found the one!

‘She’s beautiful, and therefore to be wooed; She is woman, and therefore to be won.’ – Shakespeare

1. IF SHE BELIEVES IN YOU

Love is something that makes any wise man, insane and beautiful women, ugly… It depends on us how we deal with it. Being loved by someone is a very beautiful feeling. You all need a girl that believes in you and supports you in any matter.

Remember love can make you do things reaching extremes from both sides, This can be constructive as well as destructive too. Choose your girl wisely, Choose the one who sees a hero in you and would do anything to keep you motivated.

2. IF SHE KNOWS HOW TO DECREASE YOUR ANGER

Everyone in the world can get angry, It’s normal; we all have different lengths to our toleration can persist. It’s easy for the ones who are chill but if anyone is short-tempered then it won’t help. Your girlfriend’s way of dealing with you while you are angry may matter a lot. If she knows how to deal with your anger instead of being annoyed, you have found the right person, my friend.

This can be her greatest quality if she can bring you down from the “I’m going to leave you” state to “I love you” state. If she can understand you and keep quiet listening to you then that’s a blessing.

3. IF SHE TRUSTS YOU

Nowadays, It is quite easy to get know about a person’s life by either visiting their timeline or by going through the WhatsApp statuses they write. But if we look closely, these things hit relationships in a very hard manner. Lack of trust can be as harmful as the poison of the snake.

Also, it can take more time to earn someone’s trust but trust is like a glass.It can be easily be broken. While trust is the very beautiful thing to have, it is more adorable if your lover has it in” you”. It’s very fortunate to have someone in life who can completely trust you with everything. If your girl trusts you and wishes well for you. You are a lucky guy.

4. IF SHE COMPLEMENTS YOUR HUMOR

Humor is what girls are attracted to, in most cases seen the guys with good humor have the better understanding with their girls. Different girls react differently to the joke you crack during your daily routine.

When you are in a relationship with a girl, there a lot of things that count. These things determine whether or not you should carry on your relationship for a long term. If she goes crazy when you crack a joke, and well, if she adds sugar to the joke you made, she is a keeper, Never let her go, She is yours for a lifetime.

5. IF SHE SHARES YOUR TASTE IN MUSIC, MOVIES, ETC;

Boredom can fade away by listening to your favorite song or by watching your favorite movie and if all these things can be done with your lover then it adds up more value to it. A good relationship requires valuable time together. You can often go to the cinemas if girl has the same choice as you. When it comes to films, music, and TV shows these things will matter because in your long run you both will be doing these things frequently.

6. IF SHE DOESN’T APPLY ‘ELASTIC BAND THEORY’

The famous movie “Men are from are Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray depicts a concept called “Elastic Band Theory”, Men need their space and sometimes it can be huge. Women should treat them like rubber-bands. For say, When men need space they go way far away just like when you stretch a rubber-band. Then, When they’re gone they start to realize their girl’s value more and more. It’s just the same as when you stretch the band, the faster it will come back together from both sides.

7. IF SHE MAKES YOU ACT, NOT JUST DREAM

Behind every successful man, there is a woman, You’ve been hearing for a long time that men are dreamers, If your girl can put off all the breaks and wakes you up with energy that you can achieve your dreams into reality.

Some people are blessed with the ones who make them awaken with all the energy to accomplish their ambitions. What reward would it bring to your girl? You will be the one achieving all your dreams, Your happiness will be her reward. She is not a stone to be thrown away from your life.

8. IF SHE RESPECTS YOUR FAMILY

Taking your girl to lunch sometime with your family is a good idea. If she gets some good laughs around the corner, your parents will like her & even your siblings may enjoy her company. Then seriously! She is precious and you should care about her smile.

These days, when many families have their highly selective choice criteria that make dating unpredictable. You never know if your family will ignore the fact that your girl doesn’t mind the stains on your shirt or likes to do laundry in the middle of night. Therefore, If she plays the family card right and everyone in your family ends up liking her, genuinely keep her.

9. IF SHE RESPECTS YOUR PRIVACY

We all have one that friend who got lost somewhere when he found a girlfriend for himself. Girls are like devils-with-horns who cuff their boyfriends up to a pole and don’t let them come out from their rooms. It depends on both the boy and girl to decide about their privacy and freedom.

In most cases seen, girls are possessive, they persuade their men to spend the golden(spare) time with them. That we should call an excessive love and care, but it’s not healthy. Everyone in this world needs some time for themselves, So, if your girl understands that and lets you have some “Friendly time” with your buddies, then your girl is an Angel sent by God.

10. IF SHE FIGHTS YOUR BAD INTENTIONS

You might want to quit smoking but can’t because it’s just too hard and you’ve been doing it for a long time and can’t find the strength to do it but then this amazing girl comes along and changes everything. Sometimes, It’s a matter of your intentions. Your intentions can lead you to get the best in you but then, your girl comes along and makes space in your head, heart, and soul and then your realize that you can easily fight those demons.

11. IF SHE EXPOSES YOU TO INTELLECTUAL THINGS

You might think why I added this here. Well.. when your girl exposes you to things like new books that make you think of things you never thought before. Or to poetry that can make you feel the different emotions or even to music that you never knew you would like so much you are required to keep her in your life because she is creating good sources for you to build your character even more stronger than ever.

If you take books for example; Last Saturday, you answered one diplomatic thing that others can’t and will make you well-known among people. These things may seem to be boring but there is always more than that which meets the eye and it is helpful for you in a long-run.

CONCLUSION:

Being in the shoes of someone is yet different as love can never be defined easily it takes so many challenges that are being faced by both the mates. Well, These points can make you find your girl easily and if you find the one with all these qualities then it’s congratulations, you’ve found the one!

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10 THINGS TO DO AFTER SEX TO STRENTHENED YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The importance of sex in a relationship cannot be overemphasized. One of the most prolific ways for partners to bond is by having sex.

Sex can keep you close as a couple, keep stress levels down, boost immune systems, and make people feel better physically. Losing that intimacy can make other parts of the relationship suffer such as affection, communication, happiness and trust. 

People often talk about what do do before sex but rarely talk about what to do after the dust has settled, the adrenaline is sky high and the heart is racing. Foreplay is as important as the "post play". 

After having sex with your partner, you just don't wear your clothes and head straight for the doors or do you?. What you do right after sex is important because it can intensify and improve the health of your relationship. 

Here are 10 things you can do with your partner right after sex to intensify your relationship;

1. Cuddle 

Cuddling is one the most effective bonding agents for couples especially after having sex. It is a perfect way to prolong the sense of intimacy and connection. Cuddling gives you a chance to have even more quality time together, allowing you to bask in all the “feel good" hormones that are released during love making.

2. Talk

 right after sex is an effective way to intensify your relationship. People tend to get more relaxed and comfortable to talk about their feelings and worries. 

3. Cook together 

Cooking is an activity that allows a couple to connect on an intimate level, to be creative and strengthen their relationship. After sex when the energy level is down, a couple can cook a meal together and does not have to be something extravagant.

4. Watch TV

After sex, a couple can sit together on the couch to catch their favourite TV series or anything fun. It keeps them together and enables them to relax.

5. Sleep in each other's arms

Sleeping in each other's arms after sex is so romantic. It gives that sense of security and happiness. A couple becomes very vulnerable after having sex and sleeping together would ease the tension.

6. Play games

Playing maybe a video game together right after sex is a perfect way to unwind. It enables the couple to have fun and laugh. 

7. Go out for some food or drinks

Dreessing up and going out to a nice restaurant or bar right after sex is another way to strengthen your relationship. You can go to your favorite restaurant to get a decent meal or a cool spot to have some drinks. It keeps the level of interest and intimacy sky high. 

8. Browse social media together

Social media is full of trending gists and funny contents so right after sex, a couple browsing through social media is a great way to unwind and intensify their relationship. 

9. Go to the movies

Another way to intensify your relationship is by going to the movies together after sex. 

10. Do it again

Since the mood has been set already, why not do it again? Go right at it again is another way to keep the relationship exciting and the fire burning

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WHAT KILLS A RELATIONSHIP?

There are many reasons why couples break up and most of these can be prevented if only both parties have the willingness to see and understand the things that are really causing the problems in the first place. Some signs can be obvious, directly and instantly launching their attacks but others come in the form of small bits of negativities that can accumulate over time, until it can gather enough strength to break even the strongest of bonds.If you don’t want this to happen to you or anyone you care about, this article will help you point out some of the many things and habits that will destroy your relationship. More importantly, we’ll provide you with some realistic tips and long-term solutions on how to avoid and finally overcome them.

First of all, a relationship can be vulnerable to breakup when:

1. Your unending insecurities

Being insecure in a relationship can lead to the worst outcomes especially if you don’t do your part to overcome it. When you entertain that feeling of not being good enough either as a lover or a partner, you also open your doors to other unhealthy possibilities that could lead to a devastating breakup. So what should you do? Build your confidence and have a little faith in yourself.

2. Your overflowing jealousy

If you often feel the sting of jealousy, it’s time to take a step back and think about how it can negatively affect and change your bond as a couple. In most instances, the root of this negative emotion often comes from groundless accusations or imagined scenarios, leading to more serious problems in the relationship.

Remember this: before creating stories in your head, why don’t you confront and talk to your significant other first?

3. Your envy and bitterness

Envy is a deadly venom that can suck the happiness out of you, and in relationship, it can affect how you view yourself as a partner. Being envious means having the strong urge to possess something that you never had – and that obsessive feeling of being frustrated because you can’t have them at the moment can often bring out the worst in you. Because of this, satisfaction and contentment can be very elusive.

4.Your excessive possessiveness 

You’ve probably heard a lot about what an overly-attached girlfriend (or boyfriend) is and maybe you’ve told yourself that you’ll never be one. Well, sometimes people don’t notice that they are already being so possessive and overly protective that their “genuine love” turns into a suffocating bird cage. Give each other space, give each other enough freedom to fly.

5. Your lack of love for yourself

Don’t let your world revolve around your relationship. You have to live a life outside of your romantic connection or run the risk of losing yourself in the process. It’s not real love when you give every part of you to someone. A healthy, genuine expression of love is only possible if you love yourself first, if you use yourself as a sturdy anchor so you won’t go astray.

6. Your lack of confidence and independence

It’s good to seek relationship advice from people you trust but what’s not okay is if you allow them to tell you what to do especially when it comes to matters involving your significant other. You’re the one in the relationship and you know very well what it needs. Ask for help but the last step should be taken by you and you alone.

7. Your dishonesty

You should have the ability and courage to express how you really feel. Is your partner doing something that is hurting you but you’re too scared to say it because it could trigger a fight? Is your significant other too reluctant to tell you how he feels because it’s not “manly” to do so? Don’t hesitate to open your heart and tell each other what’s wrong. Communication is the key, remember?

8. Your lack of interest in your partner’s future plans

What do you talk about whenever you’re alone together? Do your conversations include future plans? Do you show enough enthusiasm whenever your partner shares his dreams? Does your boyfriend think that you should pursue your goals even if others think it’s too ambitious? The answer to these questions will determine if someone really wants the best for you, now and forever.

9. Your selfishness and pride

You’re fighting and you were hurt, big time. What do you do? Wait a few hours to calm yourselves down and finally talk about it? Or do you engage in a silent war and wait until someone gives up? Choosing your emotions and selfishly protecting your pride just to prove that you’re right can be damaging to your relationship.

10. Your inability to give enough time, attention, and effort

Are you doing your part as a partner and as a friend? In order for relationships to work, both parties should give enough of their time and effort – and when we say “enough”, it means not too little, not too much. Know what you both need and how much you can offer without compromising your own needs.

11. Your inability to recognize the real problems

It’s not good to just forget about what caused an argument or what started a fight. You have to talk about it. Create an “honesty zone” and just let it all out. Letting these things go without even knowing how and why they sparked a disagreement will just pile up and it will just be a matter of time before one of you explodes.

12. Your lack of understanding

You don’t have to be a psychic to figure out what your partner is trying to express, vice versa. Just by observing familiar gestures and specific choice of words, you can already tell what’s really going on. Sometimes, problems in relationship arise because couples tend to be oblivious of what’s really happening – until it’s already too late.

The truth is, you don’t have to be the most perfect person for the one you love but you have to know what you should and shouldn’t do if you want to have a healthy and a long-lasting relationship. These adjectives may be too idealistic but they’re possible, as long as you do your part not only as a lover but as a life companion.

We are only given one or two chances to find happiness with someone special so let’s not waste it.

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10 THINGS VIRGINS DISCOVER ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT

The wedding night for a virgin can cause anxiety that will make you sweat your expensive make up job right off. Sex is a big topic whether you are a virgin or not, and the wedding night builds up so much anticipation that you want to just crawl into a hole and disappear and hope that your friends and family forget that you even got married. For a virgin, there are so many rumors that go around and unprecedented advice given before the night that you are supposed to do the deed that it is hard to not wonder what it will be like, it is hard to not psych yourself out only to be let down and wondering what all the fuss was about. However, when the night finally happens (after the anticipation and excitement or dread) you are left puzzled and with a whole bunch of thoughts that will leave your head spinning. You start to question what happened to all the glitz and glam that people talk about surrounding sex and furthermore, you have to wonder why you are left so lost and confused about all the after thoughts. No matter how humorous, repulsive, annoying, or weird the experience was, it will forever be one that sticks out in your mind and while all those thoughts that come afterwards warrant an answer you may never figure out what some of those feelings mean. Keep in mind that there is more than one virgin out there who is experiencing the wedding night, post intercourse feelings that seem so familiar to you.

10. You Don’t Like Your First Time

You may have hated that experience more than anything in your life; and you may even think that intercourse is not for you; of course you are jumping the gun because it is your first time and how it happens and how it feels will change over time. However, in that moment you are feeling as though this experience is not for you and you may never want to do it again, that is normal and chances are you will want to do it again. The more you do it the better it becomes. So do not say you do not like intercourse, just say it was not great that time.

9. Everything Feels Weird Down There

It is natural for your physical body to feel out of place at this time, in addition to the pain, your body has gone through a gigantic shift; this is due to you using muscles that have never been used before. Emotionally you may feel a bit off as well and this is due to trying something that is out of your comfort zone and something that you would have to get used to over time. Your muscles have shifted and you now have to take your time and figure out what feels good and what does not. Relax, you have time to figure it out.

8. The Big “O” Is Not Guaranteed

It is okay if you did not experience the “explosion” that you have waited so long for; you quickly realize that this is not a guaranteed pleasure and soon after that, you will realize that unless you do it yourself there will be several incidents where the big “O” is nowhere to be found. You may be surprised after your first time or maybe a better word is confused, you are thinking “hmm, that was weird”, “is that all there is to it?” and the answer is no. As time goes on you will learn new tricks and tips that make it much better and get you to that “explosion” you were lacking on your wedding night.

7. You Feel Weird Afterwards

If you were the type of person who made it known that you were a virgin and you were waiting for marriage, then chances are when you have officially done the deed you may feel awkward for two reasons. 1. You feel like you have done something dirty and 2. When you get home from your honeymoon you will feel like everyone is looking at you, staring daggers at you almost judging you as if they know that you are no longer a virgin. As if you are no longer that “special” girl who had the courage to stave off the temptations of sex for all those years.

6. Being A Virgin Is Not My Identity

When women self identify as being a virgin it can sometimes cloud who they are; they wear it like a badge of honor and people around them start to recognize them as just that. When you have finally done the deed, what or who are you at that point? It is then that you realize that you are so much more than the local virgin. You are now a wife; a mother soon (if that is in your future) but most of all you are a human being who does not need to label who she is. On your wedding night you begin to realize that your identity is what you want it to be not what is most identifiable about you.

5. It Can End As Quickly As It Began

“Oh is that it?”; sometimes yes. The build up to sex can make your mind go crazy, you sometimes have all these scenarios in your head of what it will feel like, and how it will pay out. Unfortunately, your imagination is just that, your imagination; there is no real way to know how something will turn out until you try it. Yes you have an idea of what to expect, but most of the time it turns out to be completely different than you expected. The same thing goes for being intimate, it usually does not last long depending on who you are with and really, as your first time on your wedding night you do not want it to last long, you just want it to be loving.

4. I Did Not Have To Be Married To Enjoy This

By now you have realized that waiting till marriage does not change the idea of being intimate; some people end up laying there and thinking: “I waited this long just for a ring and a fancy/expensive party?”. A tinge of regret forms in the back of your throat; you missed out on intimate moments with other people because you wanted to save yourself. Those intimate moments do not necessarily have to involve intercourse but the idea of sharing a close thought, a friendship with someone that you cut yourself off of because you associated intimacy with intercourse. Even if you do want to wait for marriage do not let it consume your life, allow yourself to experience other sides of intimacy.

3. The Rumors Are Only Half Truths

All those stories that you hear are usually never true. Everyone has their own experience, and what happened to one person may not happen to you. This is why talking with your girls beforehand can throw a wrench in your excitement. Some of the rumors include; it is awkward, it will hurt really, really bad, it was so fun/boring, the list could go on and on. But in reality you may have realized that oh it did not hurt as bad as I heard, or your experience was actually quite fun and totally not awkward. This is because everyone has a different way of looking at things; even though you are a virgin you could have great sexual chemistry with your new husband so you do not experience the awkwardness, or it may not hurt because you were not a total prude and you have heard of pleasure toys.

2. It Is Still Special

Even though it was maybe not what you expected or ended up being better than you thought, either way it was still special. Contrary to popular beliefs it is hard to stay a virgin; to have that tenacity and drive to wait for the right one then wait a while longer for him to propose and wait some more time for the actual wedding way is no simple feat. So naturally it will be a special moment, as you are not only celebrating the union of your lives but you are celebrating your courage and strength in being able to wait for the right one and make it that special moment that you hoped it would have been all those years ago.

1. It Is Not All That It Is Cracked Up To Be

Yes, it can be special and exciting and guaranteed one of the most memorable times in your life, however, when it is done, it is done and that is that. There is no second chance, there is no do over’s with someone more worthy and most of all it does not guarantee that this will be the man that you will be with forever. Intimacy just seems like intimacy at this point; and when it is done you realize that it was not a big deal, you may question yourself wondering why you were so nervous or scared or realizing that all the hype was unnecessary.

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WAYS TO KNOW SHE IS FEELING HORNY AROUND YOU, be careful of the number 3

“When it comes to sex, men are like light switches while women are like car engines?” It implies that men would always be reliably ready for sex at any time of the day while women, on the other hand, need to get warmed up first to get things going.

Can you ever tell if a girl is horny while hanging out with her? Well, these are the right signs to watch out for

She’s touchy and feely

Here, he hand travels to places where they usually don’t, and with it comes the distinct blurring of the lines between normal and unwelcome touching. But who are we kidding right? There is no “unwelcome touching” for girls in the male vocabulary. This doesn’t mean that she’ll grab your crotch immediately though. Her touching could be subtle yet a ritualized invitation for you to do the same to her, and she’s telling you that she won’t mind.

She’s complimenting how good you look 

In a normal situation, this behavior could be passed off as mere flirting, but if she’s sexualizing everything you do and objectifying you, then it’s another story. Being sexually objectified is normally frowned upon, but in every man’s subconscious, it’s a secret fantasy to be chased and hit on by lots of women.

She lets you touch her 

This could be described as the dead giveaway prior to the point of no return. Girls, even the most flirty ones, are very sensitive to unwelcome touching. So if you’re the daring type and would want to confirm if she really wants it, and she lets you touch her, then there is no need for further explanation because you know what comes next. Be careful though, and start easy and carefully. Don’t just slide your hand inside her blouse. Make it more romantic and ritualized in order to build sexual tension for the both of you. 

She’s uneasy in your presence 

Female arousal comes with various biological mechanisms in her body like increased heart rate and heavier breathing, creating a certain degree of discomfort, and hence, the reason why she says that she feels “hot.”So let’s say that you’re on a date and she constantly shifts about in her seat while keeping her gaze at you, playing with her hair, or keeps going to the ladies room to freshen up, it could only mean that she’s into you and wants to get the best of your attention.

She’s flirtier than usual 

In this case we assume that you’ve established at least a neutral type of relationship with the said girl. You do the usual things that friends or acquaintances do, like hanging out and a little casual talk every now and then. And then, for some reason, you notice that she’s flirtier and more teasing than her usual personality would otherwise show. Your suspicions would be further confirmed if she singles you out from the rest of the males around her. Flirting is an obvious sign that she’s aroused and that she wants your undivided attention. 

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SIGNS YOU ARE DATING THE RIGHT PERSON

Love is a beautiful thing when you are with the right person. Love can also be very evil and painful when you are with the wrong person, these 6 signs will help you evaluate your relationship:

1 They handle conflicts maturely

Conflicts are bound to rise in any relationship between two different people. But ask yourself this; How does your partner handle conflict that arises between you two? Do they call you names, gaslight you? Ridicule you? Or even physically abuse you? When you’re in any disagreement, a good partner shouldn't do anything to put you down or behave aggressively. They talk respectfully, calmly and openly.

2. They celebrate your successes

A good partner always look out for your achievements, they act as your support system and hypeman. They see your accomplishments as a great thing. They don't dismiss them or seek to make you feel bad when you're doing well. They also don’t behave as if they’re in competition with you. Even if they try to use competition as a tool for motivating you, they do it in a healthy manner. They always want you to be better and celebrate you when you hit a milestone. When you're happy, they're happy.

3. They make communication easy

A good partner always talk about everything Ann's anything. They talk about issues, themselves, their jobs, careers, dreams and aspirations. Ask yourself 'Does my partner know about my dreams?'. They allow you to be vulnerable and they don’t throw your vulnerabilities in your face or expose your deepest secrets. They listen when you speak not just to hear, but also to understand. They also encourage you to talk about yourself.

4. You spend time apart and have lives outside your relationship

They allow you to spend time with other important people in your life and they are not actively trying to compete for space because they trust you enough to let you live. Your life consists of a healthy balance of ‘us’ and ‘me’ time. They want you to have a social life outside of them, and don’t seek to control you. You feel like you’re given room to grow and spend time with others.

5. They are willing to compromise

A good partner is not selfish and self centered. They understand that your relationship doesn't revolve around them alone. They understand the meaning of a 'partnership' and that your needs matter too. When compromise may be required, they evaluate all options and not just the ones to suit them.

6. They are expressive and intentional about their feelings towards you

They regularly express their love and affection using their own and your own love language. They also try their best to love you how you like to be loved. As a result, you feel appreciated and treated like a priority, not taken for granted and treated like an option. They take time to understand what makes you blush and never come short of doing it.

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HOW TO STOP THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO BREAKS YOUR HEART

It can be very demoralizing when someone you love breaks up with you. There’s no way you will forget such a person in a hurry, especially if the break up wasn’t your fault. In this article, you will learn how to stop thinking about someone who breaks your heart.

Let me tell you the truth…

It’s difficult to stop thinking about someone you shared some cool romantic moments with. Also, it breaks the heart when you try to force yourself to forget someone. Trying to forget about someone is a cycle that’s often difficult to break.

Sometimes the more you try to stop thinking about the person who betrays your love, the more you think about them. Yeah, it’s that frustrating.

Many people ended up in depression just because they can’t stop thinking about their Ex. Some even end up committing suicide, thinking their life is worthless without the same person who breaks their hearts.

The good thing is, you can forget about anybody if you make up your mind to do it. That’s why we are here to guide you on how to stop thinking about someone you want to forget.

In the next, I’m going to share with you some useful tips that will help you forget about someone quickly.

If you are currently thinking about someone, I know how demoralizing and frustrating it can be. I have been there before, and it almost ruined me. And I don’t want it to destroy you.

Always remember that anybody who betrays your trust and love doesn’t deserve you. Do you know why? It’s because you are the best of your kind. 

#1. Decide To Forget About The Person

Our first tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to forget about that person. It’s more complicated than it sounds. But if you make up your mind, you can achieve it.

How do you forget about the person? Assume he or she never exist in your life. Tell yourself the truth that it’s over between you guys, and you want to move on with your life.

It’s natural for some part of you to still long for that person. So, remind yourself that the person is in the past, it’s time to create a future without them.

#2. Officially Notify The Person That It’s Over

This is an area most people make mistakes. If you want to stop thinking about someone, start by ending things with them.

Whatever relationship you have with such a person should be ended. Do you know why? If you fail to end things officially, they will always come back and beg. Don’t forget that your ex-lover whom you dated for a while know your weak point.

But if you end things up with them, you can feel bad for a while. After this, you redirect your energy into something more creative. Inside of burying yourself in thoughts, you can look for something else to preoccupy your mind.

#3. Don’t Try To Forget Them At Once

As I mentioned earlier, forgetting someone doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a process. And if you try to ignore the person overnight, it could be counterproductive.

It’s still okay to miss the person. If possible, think about the good old days you had with them. But this shouldn’t last for more than a few days. Otherwise, depression may be inevitable.

After the first few days of missing him or her, move on with your life. Always remember that before you met that person, you were doing excellently. And you and going to do even more after you leave.

Again, don’t forget that they are countless people out there who are better than the person who breaks your heart. With these thoughts, you can move on quickly.

#4. Divert Your Thought to Something or Someone Else

I think this is one of the best tips on how to stop thinking about someone, instead of wasting your time thinking about someone who betrayed your love. You could actually divert such thoughts to someone else. It could be a childhood friend or someone who has been there for you.

What I usually do is to think of the beautiful people around who are always there for me. It could be my mom, siblings, friends, or colleagues. Once you divert your thoughts to these people, you can forget about the ungrateful fellow who breaks your heart quickly. 

#5. Avoid Having Contact With Them By All Means

The easiest way to forget about someone is when you stop contacting them. If you are trying to erase someone from your memory, resist every urge to contact that person.

It doesn’t matter if it’s through phone calls, text messages, or meeting them one on one. If you can do this, you will forget that person faster than you can imagine. But if you keep bumping into them, the possibility of forgetting about that person is slim.

#6. Don’t Blame Yourself For What Happen

It’s normal for you to feel guilty about what happened. I know you think that if you were more diplomatic, the person wouldn’t have left. But the truth is, whoever will go will always leave.

It doesn’t matter how nice you are to them; they will always cheat or betray your truth in the slightest opportunity. So, instead of demoralizing your spirit with guilt, why don’t you cheer up. Or don’t you know that it takes two to tangle? If your partner can’t fight for the relationship, why blaming yourself.

If you keep blaming yourself, you will end up getting depressed. And you know what that means? You will have low self-esteem.

Again, if you are already blaming yourself too much about the entire breakup, engage in things that will make you happy. You can decide to see an exciting movie or stream funny videos online.

#7. Dwell More On Their Negative Traits

Remember the last time you saw caught pants down cheating on you? What about the lies he told you about his job? Or have you forgotten that he’s lazy and only good at beating people?

Well, a great tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to dwell more on such a person’s negative traits. Was he a chronic womanizer? Pathetic liar, or an aggressive young man?

If you can refocus your thoughts along with the person’s negative trait, you will dislike everything about him. The thoughts of such a person will irritate you.

Remember, anybody who breaks your heart will always want to come back for amends. He or she will ask for a second chance. And time like this, you may be confused and want to fall in love with them again. Just ruminate on their flaws, and you will be able to forget them once and for all.

#8. If Possible Stay Offline For A While

I mentioned earlier that you should avoid any form of contact with the person. Online platforms are not exempted. Try to block or unfollow them across different social media platforms. Otherwise, seeing their activities online will make the whole scenario worst.

Don’t forget that keeping the distance is vital when trying to forget someone. 

#9. Change Environment For A While If Possible

Getting out of town is another useful tip on how to stop thinking about someone. When you change the environment, you can take a break from everything, including the person you are trying to forget.

If you are still in the same location, there is the possibility of you seeing things that always remind you of such a person. But a different environment will give you a better perspective. You could make new friends and preoccupy your mind with other essential issues.

#10. Keep Yourself Busy

In the words of George Carlin, “never allow the brain Idle for an Idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” Indeed, you must have heard of those words somewhere.

Staying idle is a big mistake when you are trying to stop thinking about someone. No matter how much you try, in as far you are idle, your thoughts will always find their way to the person you are trying to forget.

But if you are busy, the chances of you thinking about that person is very slim. For this reason, try to keep yourself busy. Playing games and reading exciting novels could help.

#11. Spend More Time With Your Friends

Spending time with your friend helps a lot when your heart bleeds from heartbreak. And if your friends aren’t as boring as mine, you could stop thinking about the person who betrays your love quickly.

I’m sure you have some of those crazy friends on your list. I mean those people who will make you smile even if you are in the worst state of mind. Well, it’s time to activate them because they will be instrumental in helping you forget someone easily.

#12. Avoid Romantic Movies If You Can

Watching movies like The Notebook, Titanic, Romeo, and Juliet, etc. is a bad idea when you are trying to forget someone. These movies will activate their thoughts on your mind. You will unconsciously be thinking about the right time you have spent with them. And we both know it is not a good omen.

#13. Tell Yourself That They Have Moved On

Another good tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to tell yourself that they have moved on. Remind yourself that it’s a reality, the person is never coming back. It’s time to move on and do something good with yourself. If these thoughts keep coming to your mind, you are on the verge of forgetting that person.

#14. Never Talk About The Person While With Your Friends

The more you talk about someone you are trying to forget, the more you think about them. Even if your friends try to come up with the conversation, always avoid it. You may find it difficult to resist the urge of not talking about the person who breaks your heart, but avoiding the topic is a better option.

#15. Pretend to be Having Fun, Even though you are not

I’m sure you don’t want to give them the impression that you can’t live without them. Just pretend to be having fun with your friends and family. Go to beautiful places and force happiness out of you. Over time, you will eventually forget about everything and move on.

Like I mentioned earlier, forgetting someone doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time. But if you follow our tips here, you will learn how to stop thinking about someone who breaks your heart.

Nobody is worth killing yourself over. When someone leaves you, another one will always come. That’s the beauty of relationships. And before you do anything drastic because someone breaks your heart. Always remember that nothing truly lasts forever. Even the best love stories we have heard never lasted forever.

So, snap out of that mood and cheer up. Do you know why? It’s because Akandemic Consulting group genuinely care.

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