OMOYELE SOWORE's BIO CAREER AND NET WORTH.

Omoyele Sowore is a Nigerian human rights activist, pro-democracy campaigner, writer, blogger, lecturer, as well as the founder of Sahara Reporters – an online news agency. Sowore was also a Presidential candidate in the just concluded 2019 Nigeria Presidential election, under the African Action Congress (AAC).

OMOYELE SOWORE BACKGROUND

Omoyele Sowore was born on the 16th of February 1971, in Niger Delta, Nigeria into a polygamous home. Although, he is originally from Ese Odo, Ondo State, Nigeria.

He graduated from the University of Lagos, with a BSc in Geography and Planning in 1995, spending two extra years in school as he was expelled twice for political reasons and student activism. While in school, Sowore was the President of the Student Union Government, from 1992 to 1994. As the president, he was actively involved in anti-cultism and anti-corruption advocacy.

Sowore left Nigeria for medical treatment in New York in 1999, after his treatment, he stayed back for his Masters’ degree. He obtained a masters in Public Administration from Columbia University in 2003. He is married and blessed with children.

OMOYELE SOWORE CAREER

His passion to impact lives positively made him take on a job as a lecturer of Modern African History at the City University of New York, as well as Post-Colonial African History at the School of Art, New York.

SAHARA REPORTERS

Omoyele Sowore started Sahara Reporters in 2006, in a small room in Manhattan. Sowore began the news website so he could have a platform where he can fight against corrupt government practices.

Sahara Reporters enjoys the support of the Ford Foundation and Omidyar Foundation through financial grants. The company does not accept advert proposals, and financial support from the Nigerian government – this is one of its standing policies.

SOWORE’S POLITICAL ASPIRATION

Sowore announced, on the 25th of February 2018, that he would like to run for the presidential seat in the Nigerian 2019 general election. Following this announcement, he formed a political party – the African Action Congress (AAC), in August 2018.

Consequently, the party held its National Convention on the 6th of October, 2018, and he emerged unchallenged as the party’s Presidential Candidate

After Sowore emerged as AAC’s presidential candidate, he embarked on a fundraising tour around the world to raise funds for his campaign. He started his tour in Nigeria, where he visited almost all thirty-six states of the country. It was during his tour that he met with the Emir of Kano and Wole Soyinka. The other countries Sowore visited were Australia, the United States of America and the United Kingdom.

Although Sowore did not emerge the winner in his presidential race, he had the third highest vote of 33, 953.

Sowore however, has not given up on his quest to rule Nigeria as a president. On account of this, Sowore announced a protest that would take place on the 5th of August 2019. The protest is tagged RevolutionNow Days of Rage.

OMOYELE SOWORE AS AN ACTIVIST

Omoyele Sowore participated in the student protest of 1989 when the International Monetary Fund (IMF) gave a condition that the Universities in Nigeria should be reduced to just five from twenty-eight before they would grant the country a loan of $120 million. The proposed loan was to be used for an oil pipeline in Nigeria.

Again, Sowore led a protest that involved 5,100 students against the Nigerian government in 1992. Unfortunately for the students, things took a different turn during the protest when the police opened fire on them killing seven students. Sowore was not spared as he was arrested and beaten mercilessly by the Police.

Because of Sowore’s passion for good governance, his arrest and torture didn’t deter him, as he kept on with his fight for good governance. He still participated in the fight for democratic governance taking over the military rule in Nigeria on the 12th of June 1993.

QUOTES OF SOWORE

“…The Nation will finally hear from those who understand that governing is a service and not a birthright.”

“We embrace progress and disrupt criminality.

“The problem in Nigeria is not wealth generation BUT wealth distribution.”

“It takes teamwork to make the dream work.”

“Winning takes integrity. If you have a large enough conviction, you will realize that no amount can buy integrity.”

“No power on earth can proscribe the undying desire of people to attain liberty.

“People who destroyed our past, cannot take us to the future.”

LESSON LEARNT FROM SOWORE

Being passionate about what you do is an essential ingredient for success. Once you’re passionate about a cause, you can stand strong amid adversity. You can thrive and not give up because of your strong belief.

NET WORTH

Omoyele sowore currently Worth $10million. 

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7 THINGS THAT MAKES YOUR GIRLFRIEND DROP YOU FOR ANOTHER MAN.

​​​​​​Women as we all know are very precious, they should be give the care they deserve.

​​​​​​A woman loves a man who is caring, loving, handsome,rich,sexy, and awesomely perfect.

Nowadays most girls are not satisfied with the man they have, they want to try other men. But this will eventually happen if the man doesn't do these 7 things for them:

1. IF YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM: Girls love men who care about them, they get excited when a man cares so much about them, they will begin to fall more in love. They will leave you if u do otherwise.

2 IF YOU DON'T LOVE THEM: Some girls are very sensitive they know whether a man loves them or not and they may leave you when they realise this.

3 IF YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE WELL WITH THEM: This is one main thing to do with your girl daily because it enhances strong relationships. You will both be thinking and remembering each other.

4 IF YOU IGNORE THEIR TEXT OR calls: Ignoring your girls call or text make them fell sad and uncomfortable, a good man who loves his girl must never ignore her messages. Even though u are busy, try to let her know that you are busy instead of ignoring or snubbing.

5 If IF YOU NEVER WANT TO HE Many girls want their man to help them, but they might not actually show it. But u must try to help her even though she refuses, just offer your help with a smile and she won't hesitate allowing you to help her.

6 WHEN SHE FINDS OUT YOU ARE CHEATING On her: This is one major reasons why relationship fails. Most girls doesn't like it when they are sharing their man with another girl. This is natural it is jealousy which is needed to be present in a relationship. she may not even think twice before breaking up or leaving the guy.

7 LACK OF THRUST IN THE RELATIONSHIP: this is very common nowadays. Most men and women don't thrust their partners. Which may result to break up. I thrust you is a better compliment than I love u. So therefore a thrust worthy relationship is prone to last long. 

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IF YOUR GIRLFRIEND DOES THIS 12 THINGS, SHE'S SIMPLY THE BEST FOR YOU.

In the 21st Century, It is believed that men and women are constantly trying to find their right match, or more like “perfect partner”. While all we are trying to look for is someone who only compliments about our personality Not who we can share our good or bad news with. Should that be the case? Absolutely not.

Being in the shoes of someone is yet different as love can never be defined easily it takes so many challenges that are being faced by both the mates. These points can make you find your girl easily and if you find the one with all these qualities then it’s congratulations, you’ve found the one!

‘She’s beautiful, and therefore to be wooed; She is woman, and therefore to be won.’ – Shakespeare

1. IF SHE BELIEVES IN YOU

Love is something that makes any wise man, insane and beautiful women, ugly… It depends on us how we deal with it. Being loved by someone is a very beautiful feeling. You all need a girl that believes in you and supports you in any matter.

Remember love can make you do things reaching extremes from both sides, This can be constructive as well as destructive too. Choose your girl wisely, Choose the one who sees a hero in you and would do anything to keep you motivated.

2. IF SHE KNOWS HOW TO DECREASE YOUR ANGER

Everyone in the world can get angry, It’s normal; we all have different lengths to our toleration can persist. It’s easy for the ones who are chill but if anyone is short-tempered then it won’t help. Your girlfriend’s way of dealing with you while you are angry may matter a lot. If she knows how to deal with your anger instead of being annoyed, you have found the right person, my friend.

This can be her greatest quality if she can bring you down from the “I’m going to leave you” state to “I love you” state. If she can understand you and keep quiet listening to you then that’s a blessing.

3. IF SHE TRUSTS YOU

Nowadays, It is quite easy to get know about a person’s life by either visiting their timeline or by going through the WhatsApp statuses they write. But if we look closely, these things hit relationships in a very hard manner. Lack of trust can be as harmful as the poison of the snake.

Also, it can take more time to earn someone’s trust but trust is like a glass.It can be easily be broken. While trust is the very beautiful thing to have, it is more adorable if your lover has it in” you”. It’s very fortunate to have someone in life who can completely trust you with everything. If your girl trusts you and wishes well for you. You are a lucky guy.

4. IF SHE COMPLEMENTS YOUR HUMOR

Humor is what girls are attracted to, in most cases seen the guys with good humor have the better understanding with their girls. Different girls react differently to the joke you crack during your daily routine.

When you are in a relationship with a girl, there a lot of things that count. These things determine whether or not you should carry on your relationship for a long term. If she goes crazy when you crack a joke, and well, if she adds sugar to the joke you made, she is a keeper, Never let her go, She is yours for a lifetime.

5. IF SHE SHARES YOUR TASTE IN MUSIC, MOVIES, ETC;

Boredom can fade away by listening to your favorite song or by watching your favorite movie and if all these things can be done with your lover then it adds up more value to it. A good relationship requires valuable time together. You can often go to the cinemas if girl has the same choice as you. When it comes to films, music, and TV shows these things will matter because in your long run you both will be doing these things frequently.

6. IF SHE DOESN’T APPLY ‘ELASTIC BAND THEORY’

The famous movie “Men are from are Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray depicts a concept called “Elastic Band Theory”, Men need their space and sometimes it can be huge. Women should treat them like rubber-bands. For say, When men need space they go way far away just like when you stretch a rubber-band. Then, When they’re gone they start to realize their girl’s value more and more. It’s just the same as when you stretch the band, the faster it will come back together from both sides.

7. IF SHE MAKES YOU ACT, NOT JUST DREAM

Behind every successful man, there is a woman, You’ve been hearing for a long time that men are dreamers, If your girl can put off all the breaks and wakes you up with energy that you can achieve your dreams into reality.

Some people are blessed with the ones who make them awaken with all the energy to accomplish their ambitions. What reward would it bring to your girl? You will be the one achieving all your dreams, Your happiness will be her reward. She is not a stone to be thrown away from your life.

8. IF SHE RESPECTS YOUR FAMILY

Taking your girl to lunch sometime with your family is a good idea. If she gets some good laughs around the corner, your parents will like her & even your siblings may enjoy her company. Then seriously! She is precious and you should care about her smile.

These days, when many families have their highly selective choice criteria that make dating unpredictable. You never know if your family will ignore the fact that your girl doesn’t mind the stains on your shirt or likes to do laundry in the middle of night. Therefore, If she plays the family card right and everyone in your family ends up liking her, genuinely keep her.

9. IF SHE RESPECTS YOUR PRIVACY

We all have one that friend who got lost somewhere when he found a girlfriend for himself. Girls are like devils-with-horns who cuff their boyfriends up to a pole and don’t let them come out from their rooms. It depends on both the boy and girl to decide about their privacy and freedom.

In most cases seen, girls are possessive, they persuade their men to spend the golden(spare) time with them. That we should call an excessive love and care, but it’s not healthy. Everyone in this world needs some time for themselves, So, if your girl understands that and lets you have some “Friendly time” with your buddies, then your girl is an Angel sent by God.

10. IF SHE FIGHTS YOUR BAD INTENTIONS

You might want to quit smoking but can’t because it’s just too hard and you’ve been doing it for a long time and can’t find the strength to do it but then this amazing girl comes along and changes everything. Sometimes, It’s a matter of your intentions. Your intentions can lead you to get the best in you but then, your girl comes along and makes space in your head, heart, and soul and then your realize that you can easily fight those demons.

11. IF SHE EXPOSES YOU TO INTELLECTUAL THINGS

You might think why I added this here. Well.. when your girl exposes you to things like new books that make you think of things you never thought before. Or to poetry that can make you feel the different emotions or even to music that you never knew you would like so much you are required to keep her in your life because she is creating good sources for you to build your character even more stronger than ever.

If you take books for example; Last Saturday, you answered one diplomatic thing that others can’t and will make you well-known among people. These things may seem to be boring but there is always more than that which meets the eye and it is helpful for you in a long-run.

CONCLUSION:

Being in the shoes of someone is yet different as love can never be defined easily it takes so many challenges that are being faced by both the mates. Well, These points can make you find your girl easily and if you find the one with all these qualities then it’s congratulations, you’ve found the one!

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JESUS CHRIST, HIS BIOGRAPHY, LIFESTYLE AND DEATH.

Jesus is a religious leader whose life and teachings are recorded in the Bible’s New Testament. He is a central figure in Christianity and is emulated as the incarnation of God by many Christians all over the world.

Jesus Christ was born circa 6 B.C. in Bethlehem. Little is known about his early life, but his life and his ministry are recorded in the New Testament, more a theological document than a biography. According to Christians, Jesus is considered the incarnation of God and his teachings are followed as an example for living a more spiritual life. Christians believe he died for the sins of all people and rose from the dead.

BACKGROUND AND EARLY LIFE

Most of Jesus's life is told through the four Gospels of the New Testament Bible, known as the Canonical gospels, written by Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. These are not biographies in the modern sense but accounts with allegorical intent. They are written to engender faith in Jesus as the Messiah and the incarnation of God, who came to teach, suffer and die for people’s sins.

Jesus was born circa 6 B.C. in Bethlehem. His mother, Mary, was a virgin who was betrothed to Joseph, a carpenter. Christians believe Jesus was born through Immaculate Conception. His lineage can be traced back to the house of David. According to the Gospel of Matthew (2:1), Jesus was born during the reign of Herod the Great, who upon hearing of his birth felt threatened and tried to kill Jesus by ordering all of Bethlehem’s male children under age two to be killed. But Joseph was warned by an angel and took Mary and the child to Egypt until Herod’s death, where upon he brought the family back and settled in the town of Nazareth, in Galilee.

There is very little written about Jesus's early life. The Gospel of Luke (2:41-52) recounts that a 12-year-old Jesus had accompanied his parents on a pilgrimage to Jerusalem and became separated. He was found several days later in a temple, discussing affairs with some of Jerusalem’s elders. Throughout the New Testament, there are trace references of Jesus working as a carpenter while a young adult. It is believed that he began his ministry at age 30 when he was baptized by John the Baptist, who upon seeing Jesus, declared him the Son of God.

After baptism, Jesus went into the Judean desert to fast and meditate for 40 days and nights. The Temptation of Christ is chronicled in the Gospels of Matthew, Mark and Luke (known as the Synoptic Gospels). The Devil appeared and tempted Jesus three times, once to turn stone to bread, once to cast himself off a mountain where angels would save him, and once to offer him all the kingdoms of the world. All three times, Jesus rejected the Devil's temptation and sent him off.

JESUS'S MINISTRY

Jesus returned to Galilee and made trips to neighboring villages. During this time, several people became his disciples. One of these was Mary Magdalene, who is first mentioned the Gospel of Luke (16:9) and later in all four gospels at the crucifixion. Though not mentioned in the context of the "12 disciples," she is considered to have been involved in Jesus's ministry from the beginning to his death and after. According to the gospels of Mark and John, Jesus appeared to Magdalene first after his resurrection.

According to the Gospel of John (2:1-11), as Jesus was beginning his ministry, he and his disciples traveled with his mother, Mary, to a wedding at Cana in Galilee. The wedding host had run out of wine and Jesus's mother came to him for help. At first, Jesus refused to intervene, but then he relented and asked a servant to bring him large jars filled with water. He turned the water into a wine of higher quality than any served during the wedding. John's gospel depicts the event as the first sign of Jesus's glory and his disciples' belief in him.

After the wedding, Jesus, his mother Mary and his disciples traveled to Jerusalem for Passover. At the temple, they saw moneychangers and merchants selling wares. In a rare display of anger, Jesus overturned the tables and, with a whip made of cords, drove them out, declaring that his Father’s house is not a house for merchants.

The Synoptic Gospels chronicle Jesus as he traveled through Judea and Galilee, using parables and miracles to explain how the prophecies were being fulfilled and that the kingdom of God was near. As word spread of Jesus's teaching and healing the sick and diseased, more people began to follow him. At one point, Jesus came to a level area and was joined by a great number of people. There, at the Sermon on the Mount, he presented several discourses, known as the Beatitudes, which encapsulate many of the spiritual teachings of love, humility and compassion.

As Jesus continued preaching about the kingdom of God, the crowds grew larger and began to proclaim him as the son of David and as the Messiah. The Pharisees heard of this and publicly challenged Jesus, accusing him of having the power of Satan. He defended his actions with a parable, then questioned their logic and told them such thinking denied the power of God, which only further hardened their resolve to work against him.

Near the city of Caesarea Philippi, Jesus talked with his disciples. According to the gospels of Matthew (16:13), Mark (8:27) and Luke (9:18), he asked, "Who do you say that I am?" The question confused them, and only Peter responded, saying, "You are the Christ, the Son of the living God." Jesus blessed Peter, accepting the titles of "Christ" and the "Son of God," and declared the proclamation was a divine revelation from God. Jesus then proclaimed Peter to be the leader of the church. Jesus then warned his disciples of the Pharisees’ conspiracy against him and of his fate to suffer and be killed, only to rise from the dead on the third day.

Less than a week later, Jesus took three of his disciples to a high mountain where they could pray alone. According to the Synoptic Gospels, Jesus's face began shining like the sun and his entire body glowed with a white light. Then, the prophets Elijah and Moses appeared, and Jesus talked to them. A bright cloud emerged around them, and a voice said, "This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased; listen to him." This event, known as the Transfiguration, is a pivotal moment in Christian theology. It supports the identity of Jesus as the Christ, the Son of the living God.

Jesus arrived in Jerusalem, the week before the holiday of Passover, riding on a donkey. Great numbers of people took palm branches and greeted him at the city's entry. They praised him as the Son of David and as the Son of God. The priests and Pharisees, fearful of the growing public adulation, felt he must be stopped.

All four Gospels describe Jesus's final week in Jerusalem. During this time, Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, confronted moneychangers and merchants in the temple, and debated with the high priests who questioned Jesus's authority. He told his disciples about the coming days and that Jerusalem's temple would be destroyed. Meanwhile, the chief priests and elders met with high priest Caiaphas, and set plans in motion to arrest Jesus. One of the disciples, Judas, met with the chief priests and told them how he would deliver Jesus to them. They agreed to pay him 30 pieces of silver.

THE LAST SUPPER

Jesus and his 12 disciples met for the Passover meal, and he gave them his final words of faith. He also foretold of his betrayal by one of the disciples and privately let Judas know it was he. Jesus told Peter that before a rooster crowed the next morning, he would have denied knowing Jesus three times. At the end of the meal, Jesus instituted the Eucharist, which in the Christian religion, signifies the covenant between God and humans.

After the Last Supper, Jesus and his disciples went to the Garden of Gethsemane to pray. Jesus asked God if this cup (his suffering and death) might pass by him. He implored a group of his disciples to pray with him, but they kept falling asleep. Then the time had come. Soldiers and officials appeared, and Judas was with them. He gave Jesus a kiss on the cheek to identify him and the soldiers arrested Jesus. One disciple tried to resist the arrest, brandished his sword and cut the ear off one of the soldiers. But Jesus admonished him and healed the soldier's wound.

After his arrest, many of the disciples went into hiding. Jesus was taken to the high priest and interrogated. He was hit and spat upon for not responding. Meanwhile, Peter had followed Jesus to the high priests' court. As he hid in the shadows, three house servants asked if he was one of Jesus' disciples and each time he denied it. After each denial, a rooster crowed. Then Jesus was led out of the house and looked directly at Peter. Peter remembered how Jesus had told him he would deny him and he wept bitterly. Judas, who was watching from a distance, became distraught by his betrayal of Jesus and attempted to return the 30 pieces of silver. The priests told him his guilt was his own. He threw the coins into the temple and later hanged himself.

THE CRUCIFIXION

The next day, Jesus was taken to the high court where he was mocked, beaten and condemned for claiming to be the Son of God. He was brought before Pontius Pilate, the Roman governor of Judea. The priests accused Jesus of claiming to be the king of the Jews and asked that he be condemned to death. At first Pilate tried to pass Jesus off to King Herod, but he was brought back, and Pilate told the Jewish priests he could find no fault with Jesus. The priests reminded him that anyone who claimed to be a king speaks against Caesar. Pilate publicly washed his hands of responsibility, yet ordered the crucifixion in response to the demands of the crowd. The Roman soldiers whipped and beat Jesus, placed a crown of thorns on his head and then led him off to Mount Calvary.

Jesus was crucified with two thieves, one at his left and the other at his right. Above his head was the charge against him, "King of the Jews." At his feet were his mother, Mary, and Mary Magdalene. The Gospels describe various events that occurred during the last three hours of his life, including the taunting by the soldiers and the crowd, Jesus's agony and outbursts, and his final words. While Jesus was on the cross, the sky darkened, and immediately upon his death, an earthquake erupted, tearing the temple's curtain from top to bottom. A soldier confirmed his death by sticking a spear into his side, which produced only water. He was taken down from the cross and buried in a nearby tomb.

RISEN FROM THE DEAD

Three days after his death, Jesus's tomb was found empty. He had risen from the dead and appeared first to Mary Magdalene and then to his mother Mary. They both informed the disciples, who were in hiding, and later, Jesus appeared to them and told them not to be afraid. During this brief time, he beseeched his disciples to go into the world and preach the gospel to all humanity. After 40 days, Jesus led his disciples to Mount Olivet, east of Jerusalem. Jesus spoke his final words to them, saying that they would receive the power of the Holy Spirit, before he was taken upward on a cloud and ascended into heaven.

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10 THINGS TO DO AFTER SEX TO STRENTHENED YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The importance of sex in a relationship cannot be overemphasized. One of the most prolific ways for partners to bond is by having sex.

Sex can keep you close as a couple, keep stress levels down, boost immune systems, and make people feel better physically. Losing that intimacy can make other parts of the relationship suffer such as affection, communication, happiness and trust. 

People often talk about what do do before sex but rarely talk about what to do after the dust has settled, the adrenaline is sky high and the heart is racing. Foreplay is as important as the "post play". 

After having sex with your partner, you just don't wear your clothes and head straight for the doors or do you?. What you do right after sex is important because it can intensify and improve the health of your relationship. 

Here are 10 things you can do with your partner right after sex to intensify your relationship;

1. Cuddle 

Cuddling is one the most effective bonding agents for couples especially after having sex. It is a perfect way to prolong the sense of intimacy and connection. Cuddling gives you a chance to have even more quality time together, allowing you to bask in all the “feel good" hormones that are released during love making.

2. Talk

 right after sex is an effective way to intensify your relationship. People tend to get more relaxed and comfortable to talk about their feelings and worries. 

3. Cook together 

Cooking is an activity that allows a couple to connect on an intimate level, to be creative and strengthen their relationship. After sex when the energy level is down, a couple can cook a meal together and does not have to be something extravagant.

4. Watch TV

After sex, a couple can sit together on the couch to catch their favourite TV series or anything fun. It keeps them together and enables them to relax.

5. Sleep in each other's arms

Sleeping in each other's arms after sex is so romantic. It gives that sense of security and happiness. A couple becomes very vulnerable after having sex and sleeping together would ease the tension.

6. Play games

Playing maybe a video game together right after sex is a perfect way to unwind. It enables the couple to have fun and laugh. 

7. Go out for some food or drinks

Dreessing up and going out to a nice restaurant or bar right after sex is another way to strengthen your relationship. You can go to your favorite restaurant to get a decent meal or a cool spot to have some drinks. It keeps the level of interest and intimacy sky high. 

8. Browse social media together

Social media is full of trending gists and funny contents so right after sex, a couple browsing through social media is a great way to unwind and intensify their relationship. 

9. Go to the movies

Another way to intensify your relationship is by going to the movies together after sex. 

10. Do it again

Since the mood has been set already, why not do it again? Go right at it again is another way to keep the relationship exciting and the fire burning

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WHAT KILLS A RELATIONSHIP?

There are many reasons why couples break up and most of these can be prevented if only both parties have the willingness to see and understand the things that are really causing the problems in the first place. Some signs can be obvious, directly and instantly launching their attacks but others come in the form of small bits of negativities that can accumulate over time, until it can gather enough strength to break even the strongest of bonds.If you don’t want this to happen to you or anyone you care about, this article will help you point out some of the many things and habits that will destroy your relationship. More importantly, we’ll provide you with some realistic tips and long-term solutions on how to avoid and finally overcome them.

First of all, a relationship can be vulnerable to breakup when:

1. Your unending insecurities

Being insecure in a relationship can lead to the worst outcomes especially if you don’t do your part to overcome it. When you entertain that feeling of not being good enough either as a lover or a partner, you also open your doors to other unhealthy possibilities that could lead to a devastating breakup. So what should you do? Build your confidence and have a little faith in yourself.

2. Your overflowing jealousy

If you often feel the sting of jealousy, it’s time to take a step back and think about how it can negatively affect and change your bond as a couple. In most instances, the root of this negative emotion often comes from groundless accusations or imagined scenarios, leading to more serious problems in the relationship.

Remember this: before creating stories in your head, why don’t you confront and talk to your significant other first?

3. Your envy and bitterness

Envy is a deadly venom that can suck the happiness out of you, and in relationship, it can affect how you view yourself as a partner. Being envious means having the strong urge to possess something that you never had – and that obsessive feeling of being frustrated because you can’t have them at the moment can often bring out the worst in you. Because of this, satisfaction and contentment can be very elusive.

4.Your excessive possessiveness 

You’ve probably heard a lot about what an overly-attached girlfriend (or boyfriend) is and maybe you’ve told yourself that you’ll never be one. Well, sometimes people don’t notice that they are already being so possessive and overly protective that their “genuine love” turns into a suffocating bird cage. Give each other space, give each other enough freedom to fly.

5. Your lack of love for yourself

Don’t let your world revolve around your relationship. You have to live a life outside of your romantic connection or run the risk of losing yourself in the process. It’s not real love when you give every part of you to someone. A healthy, genuine expression of love is only possible if you love yourself first, if you use yourself as a sturdy anchor so you won’t go astray.

6. Your lack of confidence and independence

It’s good to seek relationship advice from people you trust but what’s not okay is if you allow them to tell you what to do especially when it comes to matters involving your significant other. You’re the one in the relationship and you know very well what it needs. Ask for help but the last step should be taken by you and you alone.

7. Your dishonesty

You should have the ability and courage to express how you really feel. Is your partner doing something that is hurting you but you’re too scared to say it because it could trigger a fight? Is your significant other too reluctant to tell you how he feels because it’s not “manly” to do so? Don’t hesitate to open your heart and tell each other what’s wrong. Communication is the key, remember?

8. Your lack of interest in your partner’s future plans

What do you talk about whenever you’re alone together? Do your conversations include future plans? Do you show enough enthusiasm whenever your partner shares his dreams? Does your boyfriend think that you should pursue your goals even if others think it’s too ambitious? The answer to these questions will determine if someone really wants the best for you, now and forever.

9. Your selfishness and pride

You’re fighting and you were hurt, big time. What do you do? Wait a few hours to calm yourselves down and finally talk about it? Or do you engage in a silent war and wait until someone gives up? Choosing your emotions and selfishly protecting your pride just to prove that you’re right can be damaging to your relationship.

10. Your inability to give enough time, attention, and effort

Are you doing your part as a partner and as a friend? In order for relationships to work, both parties should give enough of their time and effort – and when we say “enough”, it means not too little, not too much. Know what you both need and how much you can offer without compromising your own needs.

11. Your inability to recognize the real problems

It’s not good to just forget about what caused an argument or what started a fight. You have to talk about it. Create an “honesty zone” and just let it all out. Letting these things go without even knowing how and why they sparked a disagreement will just pile up and it will just be a matter of time before one of you explodes.

12. Your lack of understanding

You don’t have to be a psychic to figure out what your partner is trying to express, vice versa. Just by observing familiar gestures and specific choice of words, you can already tell what’s really going on. Sometimes, problems in relationship arise because couples tend to be oblivious of what’s really happening – until it’s already too late.

The truth is, you don’t have to be the most perfect person for the one you love but you have to know what you should and shouldn’t do if you want to have a healthy and a long-lasting relationship. These adjectives may be too idealistic but they’re possible, as long as you do your part not only as a lover but as a life companion.

We are only given one or two chances to find happiness with someone special so let’s not waste it.

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10 THINGS VIRGINS DISCOVER ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT

The wedding night for a virgin can cause anxiety that will make you sweat your expensive make up job right off. Sex is a big topic whether you are a virgin or not, and the wedding night builds up so much anticipation that you want to just crawl into a hole and disappear and hope that your friends and family forget that you even got married. For a virgin, there are so many rumors that go around and unprecedented advice given before the night that you are supposed to do the deed that it is hard to not wonder what it will be like, it is hard to not psych yourself out only to be let down and wondering what all the fuss was about. However, when the night finally happens (after the anticipation and excitement or dread) you are left puzzled and with a whole bunch of thoughts that will leave your head spinning. You start to question what happened to all the glitz and glam that people talk about surrounding sex and furthermore, you have to wonder why you are left so lost and confused about all the after thoughts. No matter how humorous, repulsive, annoying, or weird the experience was, it will forever be one that sticks out in your mind and while all those thoughts that come afterwards warrant an answer you may never figure out what some of those feelings mean. Keep in mind that there is more than one virgin out there who is experiencing the wedding night, post intercourse feelings that seem so familiar to you.

10. You Don’t Like Your First Time

You may have hated that experience more than anything in your life; and you may even think that intercourse is not for you; of course you are jumping the gun because it is your first time and how it happens and how it feels will change over time. However, in that moment you are feeling as though this experience is not for you and you may never want to do it again, that is normal and chances are you will want to do it again. The more you do it the better it becomes. So do not say you do not like intercourse, just say it was not great that time.

9. Everything Feels Weird Down There

It is natural for your physical body to feel out of place at this time, in addition to the pain, your body has gone through a gigantic shift; this is due to you using muscles that have never been used before. Emotionally you may feel a bit off as well and this is due to trying something that is out of your comfort zone and something that you would have to get used to over time. Your muscles have shifted and you now have to take your time and figure out what feels good and what does not. Relax, you have time to figure it out.

8. The Big “O” Is Not Guaranteed

It is okay if you did not experience the “explosion” that you have waited so long for; you quickly realize that this is not a guaranteed pleasure and soon after that, you will realize that unless you do it yourself there will be several incidents where the big “O” is nowhere to be found. You may be surprised after your first time or maybe a better word is confused, you are thinking “hmm, that was weird”, “is that all there is to it?” and the answer is no. As time goes on you will learn new tricks and tips that make it much better and get you to that “explosion” you were lacking on your wedding night.

7. You Feel Weird Afterwards

If you were the type of person who made it known that you were a virgin and you were waiting for marriage, then chances are when you have officially done the deed you may feel awkward for two reasons. 1. You feel like you have done something dirty and 2. When you get home from your honeymoon you will feel like everyone is looking at you, staring daggers at you almost judging you as if they know that you are no longer a virgin. As if you are no longer that “special” girl who had the courage to stave off the temptations of sex for all those years.

6. Being A Virgin Is Not My Identity

When women self identify as being a virgin it can sometimes cloud who they are; they wear it like a badge of honor and people around them start to recognize them as just that. When you have finally done the deed, what or who are you at that point? It is then that you realize that you are so much more than the local virgin. You are now a wife; a mother soon (if that is in your future) but most of all you are a human being who does not need to label who she is. On your wedding night you begin to realize that your identity is what you want it to be not what is most identifiable about you.

5. It Can End As Quickly As It Began

“Oh is that it?”; sometimes yes. The build up to sex can make your mind go crazy, you sometimes have all these scenarios in your head of what it will feel like, and how it will pay out. Unfortunately, your imagination is just that, your imagination; there is no real way to know how something will turn out until you try it. Yes you have an idea of what to expect, but most of the time it turns out to be completely different than you expected. The same thing goes for being intimate, it usually does not last long depending on who you are with and really, as your first time on your wedding night you do not want it to last long, you just want it to be loving.

4. I Did Not Have To Be Married To Enjoy This

By now you have realized that waiting till marriage does not change the idea of being intimate; some people end up laying there and thinking: “I waited this long just for a ring and a fancy/expensive party?”. A tinge of regret forms in the back of your throat; you missed out on intimate moments with other people because you wanted to save yourself. Those intimate moments do not necessarily have to involve intercourse but the idea of sharing a close thought, a friendship with someone that you cut yourself off of because you associated intimacy with intercourse. Even if you do want to wait for marriage do not let it consume your life, allow yourself to experience other sides of intimacy.

3. The Rumors Are Only Half Truths

All those stories that you hear are usually never true. Everyone has their own experience, and what happened to one person may not happen to you. This is why talking with your girls beforehand can throw a wrench in your excitement. Some of the rumors include; it is awkward, it will hurt really, really bad, it was so fun/boring, the list could go on and on. But in reality you may have realized that oh it did not hurt as bad as I heard, or your experience was actually quite fun and totally not awkward. This is because everyone has a different way of looking at things; even though you are a virgin you could have great sexual chemistry with your new husband so you do not experience the awkwardness, or it may not hurt because you were not a total prude and you have heard of pleasure toys.

2. It Is Still Special

Even though it was maybe not what you expected or ended up being better than you thought, either way it was still special. Contrary to popular beliefs it is hard to stay a virgin; to have that tenacity and drive to wait for the right one then wait a while longer for him to propose and wait some more time for the actual wedding way is no simple feat. So naturally it will be a special moment, as you are not only celebrating the union of your lives but you are celebrating your courage and strength in being able to wait for the right one and make it that special moment that you hoped it would have been all those years ago.

1. It Is Not All That It Is Cracked Up To Be

Yes, it can be special and exciting and guaranteed one of the most memorable times in your life, however, when it is done, it is done and that is that. There is no second chance, there is no do over’s with someone more worthy and most of all it does not guarantee that this will be the man that you will be with forever. Intimacy just seems like intimacy at this point; and when it is done you realize that it was not a big deal, you may question yourself wondering why you were so nervous or scared or realizing that all the hype was unnecessary.

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WAYS TO KNOW SHE IS FEELING HORNY AROUND YOU, be careful of the number 3

“When it comes to sex, men are like light switches while women are like car engines?” It implies that men would always be reliably ready for sex at any time of the day while women, on the other hand, need to get warmed up first to get things going.

Can you ever tell if a girl is horny while hanging out with her? Well, these are the right signs to watch out for

She’s touchy and feely

Here, he hand travels to places where they usually don’t, and with it comes the distinct blurring of the lines between normal and unwelcome touching. But who are we kidding right? There is no “unwelcome touching” for girls in the male vocabulary. This doesn’t mean that she’ll grab your crotch immediately though. Her touching could be subtle yet a ritualized invitation for you to do the same to her, and she’s telling you that she won’t mind.

She’s complimenting how good you look 

In a normal situation, this behavior could be passed off as mere flirting, but if she’s sexualizing everything you do and objectifying you, then it’s another story. Being sexually objectified is normally frowned upon, but in every man’s subconscious, it’s a secret fantasy to be chased and hit on by lots of women.

She lets you touch her 

This could be described as the dead giveaway prior to the point of no return. Girls, even the most flirty ones, are very sensitive to unwelcome touching. So if you’re the daring type and would want to confirm if she really wants it, and she lets you touch her, then there is no need for further explanation because you know what comes next. Be careful though, and start easy and carefully. Don’t just slide your hand inside her blouse. Make it more romantic and ritualized in order to build sexual tension for the both of you. 

She’s uneasy in your presence 

Female arousal comes with various biological mechanisms in her body like increased heart rate and heavier breathing, creating a certain degree of discomfort, and hence, the reason why she says that she feels “hot.”So let’s say that you’re on a date and she constantly shifts about in her seat while keeping her gaze at you, playing with her hair, or keeps going to the ladies room to freshen up, it could only mean that she’s into you and wants to get the best of your attention.

She’s flirtier than usual 

In this case we assume that you’ve established at least a neutral type of relationship with the said girl. You do the usual things that friends or acquaintances do, like hanging out and a little casual talk every now and then. And then, for some reason, you notice that she’s flirtier and more teasing than her usual personality would otherwise show. Your suspicions would be further confirmed if she singles you out from the rest of the males around her. Flirting is an obvious sign that she’s aroused and that she wants your undivided attention. 

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SIGNS YOU ARE DATING THE RIGHT PERSON

Love is a beautiful thing when you are with the right person. Love can also be very evil and painful when you are with the wrong person, these 6 signs will help you evaluate your relationship:

1 They handle conflicts maturely

Conflicts are bound to rise in any relationship between two different people. But ask yourself this; How does your partner handle conflict that arises between you two? Do they call you names, gaslight you? Ridicule you? Or even physically abuse you? When you’re in any disagreement, a good partner shouldn't do anything to put you down or behave aggressively. They talk respectfully, calmly and openly.

2. They celebrate your successes

A good partner always look out for your achievements, they act as your support system and hypeman. They see your accomplishments as a great thing. They don't dismiss them or seek to make you feel bad when you're doing well. They also don’t behave as if they’re in competition with you. Even if they try to use competition as a tool for motivating you, they do it in a healthy manner. They always want you to be better and celebrate you when you hit a milestone. When you're happy, they're happy.

3. They make communication easy

A good partner always talk about everything Ann's anything. They talk about issues, themselves, their jobs, careers, dreams and aspirations. Ask yourself 'Does my partner know about my dreams?'. They allow you to be vulnerable and they don’t throw your vulnerabilities in your face or expose your deepest secrets. They listen when you speak not just to hear, but also to understand. They also encourage you to talk about yourself.

4. You spend time apart and have lives outside your relationship

They allow you to spend time with other important people in your life and they are not actively trying to compete for space because they trust you enough to let you live. Your life consists of a healthy balance of ‘us’ and ‘me’ time. They want you to have a social life outside of them, and don’t seek to control you. You feel like you’re given room to grow and spend time with others.

5. They are willing to compromise

A good partner is not selfish and self centered. They understand that your relationship doesn't revolve around them alone. They understand the meaning of a 'partnership' and that your needs matter too. When compromise may be required, they evaluate all options and not just the ones to suit them.

6. They are expressive and intentional about their feelings towards you

They regularly express their love and affection using their own and your own love language. They also try their best to love you how you like to be loved. As a result, you feel appreciated and treated like a priority, not taken for granted and treated like an option. They take time to understand what makes you blush and never come short of doing it.

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HOW TO STOP THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO BREAKS YOUR HEART

It can be very demoralizing when someone you love breaks up with you. There’s no way you will forget such a person in a hurry, especially if the break up wasn’t your fault. In this article, you will learn how to stop thinking about someone who breaks your heart.

Let me tell you the truth…

It’s difficult to stop thinking about someone you shared some cool romantic moments with. Also, it breaks the heart when you try to force yourself to forget someone. Trying to forget about someone is a cycle that’s often difficult to break.

Sometimes the more you try to stop thinking about the person who betrays your love, the more you think about them. Yeah, it’s that frustrating.

Many people ended up in depression just because they can’t stop thinking about their Ex. Some even end up committing suicide, thinking their life is worthless without the same person who breaks their hearts.

The good thing is, you can forget about anybody if you make up your mind to do it. That’s why we are here to guide you on how to stop thinking about someone you want to forget.

In the next, I’m going to share with you some useful tips that will help you forget about someone quickly.

If you are currently thinking about someone, I know how demoralizing and frustrating it can be. I have been there before, and it almost ruined me. And I don’t want it to destroy you.

Always remember that anybody who betrays your trust and love doesn’t deserve you. Do you know why? It’s because you are the best of your kind. 

#1. Decide To Forget About The Person

Our first tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to forget about that person. It’s more complicated than it sounds. But if you make up your mind, you can achieve it.

How do you forget about the person? Assume he or she never exist in your life. Tell yourself the truth that it’s over between you guys, and you want to move on with your life.

It’s natural for some part of you to still long for that person. So, remind yourself that the person is in the past, it’s time to create a future without them.

#2. Officially Notify The Person That It’s Over

This is an area most people make mistakes. If you want to stop thinking about someone, start by ending things with them.

Whatever relationship you have with such a person should be ended. Do you know why? If you fail to end things officially, they will always come back and beg. Don’t forget that your ex-lover whom you dated for a while know your weak point.

But if you end things up with them, you can feel bad for a while. After this, you redirect your energy into something more creative. Inside of burying yourself in thoughts, you can look for something else to preoccupy your mind.

#3. Don’t Try To Forget Them At Once

As I mentioned earlier, forgetting someone doesn’t happen overnight. It takes a process. And if you try to ignore the person overnight, it could be counterproductive.

It’s still okay to miss the person. If possible, think about the good old days you had with them. But this shouldn’t last for more than a few days. Otherwise, depression may be inevitable.

After the first few days of missing him or her, move on with your life. Always remember that before you met that person, you were doing excellently. And you and going to do even more after you leave.

Again, don’t forget that they are countless people out there who are better than the person who breaks your heart. With these thoughts, you can move on quickly.

#4. Divert Your Thought to Something or Someone Else

I think this is one of the best tips on how to stop thinking about someone, instead of wasting your time thinking about someone who betrayed your love. You could actually divert such thoughts to someone else. It could be a childhood friend or someone who has been there for you.

What I usually do is to think of the beautiful people around who are always there for me. It could be my mom, siblings, friends, or colleagues. Once you divert your thoughts to these people, you can forget about the ungrateful fellow who breaks your heart quickly. 

#5. Avoid Having Contact With Them By All Means

The easiest way to forget about someone is when you stop contacting them. If you are trying to erase someone from your memory, resist every urge to contact that person.

It doesn’t matter if it’s through phone calls, text messages, or meeting them one on one. If you can do this, you will forget that person faster than you can imagine. But if you keep bumping into them, the possibility of forgetting about that person is slim.

#6. Don’t Blame Yourself For What Happen

It’s normal for you to feel guilty about what happened. I know you think that if you were more diplomatic, the person wouldn’t have left. But the truth is, whoever will go will always leave.

It doesn’t matter how nice you are to them; they will always cheat or betray your truth in the slightest opportunity. So, instead of demoralizing your spirit with guilt, why don’t you cheer up. Or don’t you know that it takes two to tangle? If your partner can’t fight for the relationship, why blaming yourself.

If you keep blaming yourself, you will end up getting depressed. And you know what that means? You will have low self-esteem.

Again, if you are already blaming yourself too much about the entire breakup, engage in things that will make you happy. You can decide to see an exciting movie or stream funny videos online.

#7. Dwell More On Their Negative Traits

Remember the last time you saw caught pants down cheating on you? What about the lies he told you about his job? Or have you forgotten that he’s lazy and only good at beating people?

Well, a great tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to dwell more on such a person’s negative traits. Was he a chronic womanizer? Pathetic liar, or an aggressive young man?

If you can refocus your thoughts along with the person’s negative trait, you will dislike everything about him. The thoughts of such a person will irritate you.

Remember, anybody who breaks your heart will always want to come back for amends. He or she will ask for a second chance. And time like this, you may be confused and want to fall in love with them again. Just ruminate on their flaws, and you will be able to forget them once and for all.

#8. If Possible Stay Offline For A While

I mentioned earlier that you should avoid any form of contact with the person. Online platforms are not exempted. Try to block or unfollow them across different social media platforms. Otherwise, seeing their activities online will make the whole scenario worst.

Don’t forget that keeping the distance is vital when trying to forget someone. 

#9. Change Environment For A While If Possible

Getting out of town is another useful tip on how to stop thinking about someone. When you change the environment, you can take a break from everything, including the person you are trying to forget.

If you are still in the same location, there is the possibility of you seeing things that always remind you of such a person. But a different environment will give you a better perspective. You could make new friends and preoccupy your mind with other essential issues.

#10. Keep Yourself Busy

In the words of George Carlin, “never allow the brain Idle for an Idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” Indeed, you must have heard of those words somewhere.

Staying idle is a big mistake when you are trying to stop thinking about someone. No matter how much you try, in as far you are idle, your thoughts will always find their way to the person you are trying to forget.

But if you are busy, the chances of you thinking about that person is very slim. For this reason, try to keep yourself busy. Playing games and reading exciting novels could help.

#11. Spend More Time With Your Friends

Spending time with your friend helps a lot when your heart bleeds from heartbreak. And if your friends aren’t as boring as mine, you could stop thinking about the person who betrays your love quickly.

I’m sure you have some of those crazy friends on your list. I mean those people who will make you smile even if you are in the worst state of mind. Well, it’s time to activate them because they will be instrumental in helping you forget someone easily.

#12. Avoid Romantic Movies If You Can

Watching movies like The Notebook, Titanic, Romeo, and Juliet, etc. is a bad idea when you are trying to forget someone. These movies will activate their thoughts on your mind. You will unconsciously be thinking about the right time you have spent with them. And we both know it is not a good omen.

#13. Tell Yourself That They Have Moved On

Another good tip on how to stop thinking about someone is to tell yourself that they have moved on. Remind yourself that it’s a reality, the person is never coming back. It’s time to move on and do something good with yourself. If these thoughts keep coming to your mind, you are on the verge of forgetting that person.

#14. Never Talk About The Person While With Your Friends

The more you talk about someone you are trying to forget, the more you think about them. Even if your friends try to come up with the conversation, always avoid it. You may find it difficult to resist the urge of not talking about the person who breaks your heart, but avoiding the topic is a better option.

#15. Pretend to be Having Fun, Even though you are not

I’m sure you don’t want to give them the impression that you can’t live without them. Just pretend to be having fun with your friends and family. Go to beautiful places and force happiness out of you. Over time, you will eventually forget about everything and move on.

Like I mentioned earlier, forgetting someone doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time. But if you follow our tips here, you will learn how to stop thinking about someone who breaks your heart.

Nobody is worth killing yourself over. When someone leaves you, another one will always come. That’s the beauty of relationships. And before you do anything drastic because someone breaks your heart. Always remember that nothing truly lasts forever. Even the best love stories we have heard never lasted forever.

So, snap out of that mood and cheer up. Do you know why? It’s because Akandemic Consulting group genuinely care.

Don’t forget to share with your friends on social media; it may help someone going through heartbreak.

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5 WAYS TO MAKE SOMEONE RESPECT YOU

RESPECT is an attitude of consideration or high regard. It cannot be bought or given freely to those who do not deserve it. 

We all crave honour, respect and dignity. We love it when people respect us. We get excited and elated when people treat us honourably.

As a boss, without coersing your followers or instilling severe purnishment in them. They can respect you gladly. You just need to do some basic things that will make both the young and old respect you.

Now, how do you make people respect you gladly?

Below are five ways to make people respect you;

(1) RESPECT OTHERS

It is often said that respect is reciprocal. If you want people to respect you, respect others. Respect people’s opinions and decisions. 

Naturally, people gladly respect those who are respectful. Anyone who is too pompous to honour others cannot enjoy people’s honour.

Normally, there should be a special way you address elderly ones. You don’t address the elderly ones the way you address young people. 

Although, you are older than some of your followers, but talk to them and work with them respectfully. If you want those people to gladly respect and honour you.

(2) MAKE YOURSELF RESPECTABLE

How can you expect people to respect a 50-year-old man who lies or steals? Nobody will respect such a man because he hasn’t made himself respectable.

Those who crave the respect of others must do things that will make people respect them. The truth is; respect is earned it is not freely given.

Until you start doing things that will make people treat you honourably, you will never be respected. Stop doing things that will portray you as an object of scorn. 

Be positive about your decisions. Take decisions that will earn you more respect. 

(3) HELP PEOPLE

How do you normally see those who have helped you in one way or the other? Do you see them as irresponsible, responsible, good people?

Honestly, no sane man will deliberately dishonor his destiny helper. 

Most of the time miscreants hail and honour wealthy men. They don’t hail them because those people are wealthy but because they are expecting some money from those people. 

However, if those rich people don’t give them anything, they may get disappointed and lose their respect for them. 

Please, don’t misinterpret my message. My message is simple. If you bless people, they will honour you. If you help the needy, you will be respected for that.

My point is; people gladly respect those who help them while they disrespect people who refuse to help them.

(4) BE A RESPONSIBLE PERSON

To earn people’s respect, you must be a responsible person. Do you know why some wives disrespect their husbands?

It is because those men have abdicted their responsibilities and left everything in the hands of their wives. 

Be a responsible mother. Never expect your children to honor you in the future if you cannot train them up in the way of the Lord now. 

For everyone who wants to be respected. Firstly, learn how to be a responsible person and let’s see if people will not respect you.

(5)  STOP ASKING FOR IT

Well, you may not like this point but it is the truth. I have seen people who are fond of asking people to kneel down for them, and do all sorts of things, in a bid to earn respect from them.

When people see that you are so engrossed with the acts of honour and respect. They may decide to frustration you and never respect you.

Listen, you don’t need to beg people to honor you. Just do the things that will make people respect you gladly. 

People know what they are supposed to do. But if you are forcing your will on them, they may not ex scute it gladly. Just command respect through your way of life and giving lifestyle.

In summary;

Be relentlessly proactive. Don't always wait for direction from others.

Keep your promises. This is by far one of the most important actions you can take to start gaining respect.

Stop apologizing. ...

Don't waste other people's time. ...

Stop gossiping immediately. ...

Stop being too nice. ...

Practice humility. ...

Have a moral code.

I hope this article touched your heart?

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SOME SIGNS THAT HE TRULY BELIEVE HIS FUTURE IS IN YOU.

If you truly love a man, you hope the two of you end up getting married and you just can’t wait for him to ask you to be his wife.

Here are signs he feels the same way and wants a future with you:

1. HE MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE THE ONLY WOMAN IN THE WORLD

A man who sees a future with you will make you feel like the only woman in the world. As far as he’s concerned, no other woman in this world matters.

2. HE MAKES PLANS WITH YOU

A man who sees a future with you will make plans for the future with you. A man who wants to grow with you and sees you in his future won’t hesitate to make plans for the future with you.

3. HE USES “WE” AND “OUR”

The way he speaks about the present and future can give a clue if he sees a future with you. A man who sees a future with you will use “we” and ‘our” instead of “I” and “my” when making statements about the present and future.

4. HE’S AN OPEN BOOK

He will be open about everything with you if he sees a future with you. He doesn’t hide his friends or activities from you and loves to share everything happening in his life with you.

5. HE SUPPORTS YOU

A man who wants a future with you will always support you because he sees you two as a team. He will go out of his way to show you his support whenever you need it. He will always be there for you and won’t abandon you when things get rough.

6. HE ASKS FOR YOUR OPINION

A man who wants a future with you won’t have issues taking advice from you. It’s a sign he values you when he seeks for your opinion on things that matter a lot to him.

7. HE SHARES HIS PASSWORDS

A man doesn’t have to share his password with you but if your man is cool sharing his passwords with you, it’s a big sign his trust for you is on another level. It’s a big sign he wants a future with you.

8. HE SPENDS TIME WITH PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT

He may not always get along with them but if he makes an effort to spend time with people you care about, it’s a huge sign he wants a future with you.

9. HE INVITES YOU TO MEET HIS EXTENDED FAMILY

Meeting his parents and siblings usually point to a guy being serious about a woman but when he wants you to meet every member of his extended family, it’s a sign he wants a future with you.

10. HE’S HAPPY TO COMPROMISE

Compromise is a very important part of every successful relationship. A man who sees a future with you will be happy to compromise to ensure the relationship works.

11. HE WILL BE HAPPY TO EXPRESS HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU PUBLICLY

If he wants a future with you, he won’t be insecure expressing his feelings for you publicly. He won’t hide you from others but will be proud to let everyone know you are his woman.

12. HE ENJOYS SPENDING TIME WITH YOU

If he enjoys spending time with you and it looks like you don’t bore him, that’s a huge sign he sees a future with you. If he finds you interesting, he won’t have issues spending the rest of his life with you.

13. HE INTRODUCES YOU TO HIS FRIENDS

A man who sees you as a big part of his future won’t hide you from his friends. He will introduce you to his friends, especially those friends that really matter to him.

14. HE GIVES YOU THE KEYS TO HIS APARTMENT

Men mostly like having their personal space to themselves. So if he gives you the keys to his apartment, it’s a big sign he sees a future with you.

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SOME REASONS WHY EXES KEEP COMING

It’s very common to see people in a relationship break up, and then, after a couple of months or days, one of them tries to rekindle the affair. And one begins to wonder, why quit the relationship in the first place? Why leave or agree to a break up if that’s not what you really want?  There are different reasons why people do this, and it’s important to understand that while love may sometimes be the genuine motivation, most of the time, it is not the case. So people need to be more careful when dealing with past lovers or exes.

Here are the 6 reasons why I feel exes come back…

1. LUST

Obviously, this has to be on top of the list. More than half the time exes return, they do it because of lust. Once they remember how good you were in bed, or how you were always available for their sexual needs, they run back in the hope that everything can go back to the way it was. Their return has absolutely nothing to do with love, rather, it’s lust-driven.

2. JEALOUSY/ENVY

Some people are so jealous; they can’t stand to see you with someone else even after you’ve broken up. So they keep coming back, and trying to get you back into their claws. Please, know that this isn’t love, rather, it’s something born out of an obsession for you.

There are also situations where exes return to destroy what you have, once they perceive you have moved on into a happier relationship. For them, since they aren’t happy, you can’t be either. This happens with bad break ups.

3. LONELINESS

It has been said that loneliness can drive people even to places they don’t really want to be. Exes can also come running back to you because they’re lonely and in need of company or someone to talk to. Of course, it doesn’t necessarily have to be your company, but since you once filled the void, they feel the need to have you in their lives again.

4. GOLD-DIGGING

You were once broke, and they left you to yourself, now, you’re financially very stable, and suddenly, they come professing love, and want to get back into your life. Love has nothing to do with their return; they’re only back to reap off your sweat and hard work. Men aren’t the only ones who fall victim to gold-diggers, women also do.

5. INDECISION

Indecision is naturally a huge problem for most people. They are just never fully sure of what they really want and need in their lives. This is why you see some people going back and forth with the same person in a relationship.

6. THEY GENUINELY STILL CARE

I’m putting this last for a reason; and that is because I feel it only happens less than 30% of the time – in situations where it is apparent that the returning party never really wanted a break up – otherwise I believe that once a couple allow themselves to get to the point of breaking up, they might as well have lost all feelings for each other.

I hope you find this helpful?

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🔞REASONS WHY YOU MUST HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

I will not waste your time on this and I will go straight to the point: you should absolutely have sex before you get married!

I know, many of you will come with your righteous indignations and tell me how the bible frowns at pre-marital sex, fornication and all the blab la bla, but let me tell you something, if you’re not a virgin, save yourself the holier than thou gospel, it will not change anything. And if you feel strongly against sex before marriage because of moral or religious beliefs, I respect that.

Now that we have gotten that out of the way, shall we get into the meat of this particular matter?

There are so many reasons why it is important to have sex before marriage and I will be sharing just a few of them with you here today. As I said earlier, I respect it if this is against your beliefs, but I will share reasons why you should absolutely have sex with the person you are going to get married to before your wedding.

While sex can truly blur the lines and make you think you’re in love when it’s actually the good sex that you are enjoying, it is pertinent to note that having sexual relations with the person you are to marry is not only a way to connect and bond, it also forms a part of getting to know what the other person is made up of because trust me, sex is really very important in marriage.

Here are the 5 reasons why you should absolutely have sex before marriage:

Sexual compatibility

One of the things you want in a marriage is sexual compatibility. You don’t want to be married to someone who is not sexually compatible with you, as that could lead to cheating or even a divorce. Does your spouse have the same sexual energy as you? Does s/he feel the same way toward sex? These are questions that can only and should be asked and answered before marriage. How can you answer these questions before marriage? You know how.

Bonding

It is a simple fact, sex builds bonds. You want to have a bond with the person you will spend the rest of your life with. You don’t want to go into marriage wondering why you do not have any kind of bond with the person you are marrying. Agreed, sex is not the only way to build bonds between a man and a woman, but I believe everyone reading this know how much you can bond with someone you’re having sex with.

Pleasure

One reason to have sex before marriage is pleasure. Deny it all you want, but you know how pleasurable sex can be when you do it right and doing it with the person you are going to marry can make it even more pleasurable. This part can also build up the love you have for each other and thast is very important for having a very lovely marriage. You should know that marriage is a very serious business that must be taken as seriously as that. Let me hear what you think.

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SIGNS OF TRUE LOVE FROM YOUR MAN

Have you ever experienced the signs of true love from a man? Falling in love is like bungee jumping: you have your head over heels and feel new emotions that capture your breath. Is it possible to recognize the signs of true love? How do you make sure that a man doesn’t play with your feelings, but feels true love? Read to find out!

Love is a world of chemical reactions. Sometimes it works, sometimes it fails. When two similar agents finally meet, they come into the reaction, and create a new unity that is called “a family”.

It is said that two people have to do only ten steps towards happiness. If you met no one on that way, that person wasn’t the right one to follow. How to realize that a man has stronger feelings than you may see it at first sight? In this article, you will find out what signs will help you define a man in love.

How to know if a man truly loves you

Sometimes it is rather difficult to understand when the sympathy grows into something bigger called true love. You start to catch his eyesight more often, and you see him blush when your eyes meet, you can read his thoughts, predict actions, and feel like trembling next to him – what’s the matter? Is it a coincidence or Cupid has shot you both?

Boys rather often play dirty games and call it “love”. The girls find it hard to believe in their honesty and entrust them their hearts. However, when the men finally fall in love, they lose the ground under their feet, their behavior turns into a bit childish, absently, and sometimes even foolish. To make sure and, moreover, to find out his true intentions, take a glance onto the following signs, which describe how to know a man loves you.

What are the signs of true love from a man?

1. You start to spend more time together.
2. He is gentle, polite, and patient (even if you are late for a few hours).
3. He stops flirting with other girls or women.
4. He makes you a part of his life: he “integrates” you in the atmosphere he lives in, makes his friends yours either, you both are involved in important events and perform all the actions together.
5. A man in love shows his affection to you in public.
6. Relax and enjoy being a queen. You always feel extra attention and care. He does all the best for your comfort and hears each of your words.
7. A man who has deep feelings starts to show his interest in your hobbies, work, habits, leisure time, a way of life, etc.
8. When a man loves you, he stops to say “I will”. Instead of it, you can hear “we” – which shows his serious intentions and a desire to spend the nearest future with you.
9. We all know that life is unfair sometimes and a feeling of total despair seems to catch you entirely. However, a man in love will always feel you even if he is miles away. He will come you and provide enough support and care to show you how bright the world is.
10. A man who has real feelings to a woman will always protect her from any threat and offense.
11. He entrusts you his secrets.
12. Distance is nothing for a man who truly loves. Even if he lives or works far from your house, he will find a way to see you, to hear you, and show his feelings, when you expect it less of all.
13. A man in love gives presents. Sometimes they are small, sometimes they are big – but each time they have a meaning.
14. The most significant priority of your man is you. He bears in mind all the key dates.
15. It does not matter to him, where you are from, what is your annual salary, or whether you have a private house or a car.
16. He helps you fulfill your dreams.
17. He asks your opinion about some events, clothes, or ideas. A man in love really appreciates it. Thus, you show that you are the unity, not just two separate halves under one roof.
18. It may sound surprising, but a man in love feels like a chief from a famous restaurant and will treat you with his best specialties!
19. He is ready to sacrifice his principles to make you feel comfortable.
20. Finally, you hear his “I love you”, coming from the bottom of his heart.

Men are difficult to understand, especially if we speak about men who love, that is why learning the above signs of true love from a man is crucial. Their language seems to be illegible at first. However, when you start listening with your heart, you hear the slightest sounds of their souls. Love unites and makes people happy. Calm down, be open, listen with your heart, and one day, you will hear that magic sound!

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10 THINGS NIGERIAN LADIES USED TO SAY INSTEAD OF "I LOVE YOU"

Nigerian girls are special.

Nigerian girls love shakara. Even when they are helplessly in love with you, they still front and play hard to get. They will hardly come out to say the words ‘I love you’. This is probably because of the reactions Nigerian men give when girls try to toast them.

We’re not here to make excuses for anyone, though. Here are some of the things Nigerian girls love to say when they are falling hard for you. You better take the hint.

1. ‘Ode’

This is not an insult, it’s actually a Nigerian girl’s way of flirting with you.

2. ‘ I don’t want your girlfriend to come and break my head o!’

This is just her way of asking if you have a girlfriend.

3. ‘Is there light in your house?’

This means they want to come over to your house and hang out, but they’re looking for an excuse.

4. ‘Big head’

Sometimes, instead of calling you ‘ode’, they’ll use ‘big head’ as a term of endearment.

5. ‘You can’t even call somebody’

This one is code for ‘I miss you’.

6. ‘Go away jare’

If you know what’s good for you, better stay. Nigerian girls are the queens of reverse psychology.

7. ‘Won’t you come and take me out?’

Her way of saying, ‘when are we going on a date?’

8. ‘You just forgot about me’

Another way of saying ‘ I miss you’.

9. ‘Have you eaten?’

If she asks you this, she really cares about you.

10. ‘I hate you’

If she says this, then she’s head over heels in love with you.

Fellas, which ones do you hear the most?

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13 SIGNS THAT SHOWS YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING ON YOU

1. THEY'RE SUPER PROTECTIVE OF THEIR PHONE.

Whether it’s being sneaky whenever they’re on their phone or refusing to let you anywhere near it unguarded even if it’s to check the time, it’s an indicator that something has changed. They’re trying to avoid you stumbling on intimate messages that they can’t explain away, so they start taking their phone everywhere with them.

2. There’s a sudden and renewed interest in texting.

If your partner wasn’t the type to pay serious attention to social media but now they’re always on some app texting away, then something is up. They might even get unnecessarily defensive when you point it out.

3. They’re pulling away from you.

Emotional infidelity can sometimes lead to your partner being distant. They’re giving so much of themselves to this other person so they have very little to share with you at the end of the day. They save all the stories about their day for this person while you get the generic “It was fine.”

4. They try to turn every little thing into a fight.

Is your partner constantly looking for an argument? Are the things that spark your fights getting more ridiculous by the day? This could be a sign that they have eyes for someone else. They keep comparing you to the other person in their head and they lash out when you come up short.

5. They’re not as interested in any displays of intimacy with you.

When your partner is emotionally cheating, it might cause them to withdraw from you physically. They no longer initiate sex and are almost never into it when you do. Things like kissing, hugging, cuddling, and holding hands suddenly feel like asking for too much.

6. You no longer feel like they prioritize you.

It could be less communication, presence, time, attention, affection, or something else that has gone missing from your relationship lately that makes you feel from far from special. There’s a good chance it’s because someone else is taking up their emotional real estate.

7. They keep making excuses to spend time with a specific person.

Whether it’s working late, helping them out with something, or showing up to events the other person is going to be at. It’s even worse when they’re being secretive and private about it.

8. They can’t seem to stop talking about this “friend.”

 If the better part of your partner’s conversations with you features some other party whom they obviously adore, that’s a big red flag. They might even go the other way by completely refusing to discuss the person you’re suspicious of.

9. The way they talk about your relationship is no longer reassuring.

If your partner is developing an emotional affair with someone else, it might make them unsure about the relationship they have with you. They become reluctant to talk about the future, and when they do, it’s never enthusiastically.

10. They’re shady when it comes to discussing how they spend their time.

No one wants to feel like they’re being policed, but it’s another thing for your partner to get angry or defensive when you ask about what they’ve been up to.

11. Your partner keeps flaking on plans involving just the both of you.

They hardly ever make plans to hang out anymore and when you do, they always find a reason to back out or cancel. No one constantly blows off their partner when everything is alright in the relationship.

12. They’ve shared too much information about your relationship with the other person.

There are certain aspects of your relationship that you do not discuss with outsiders other than really close friends. So if your partner is oversharing with some other person, that’s a bad sign. The same applies if it’s your partner who knows an unreasonable amount of personal details about someone else.

13. Your gut tells you something isn’t right.

A lot of the time when you can’t shake the feeling that something is out of place, you’re usually close to the truth. So if you deeply suspect that your partner is emotionally cheating on you, there’s a good chance you’re right. Air your feelings, be honest about your concerns. Hopefully, things can still be salvaged.

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